Lucy reflects on her past sexual experiences now that she has been in a steady relationship for a year. Memories of encouraging roughness, such as being slapped and choked during sex, have made her question her earlier acceptance of these behaviors. The influence of violent porn on expectations and normalization of choking in sexual encounters has raised concerns. Lucy references a competitiveness among her peers to avoid being considered boring. Changes in legislation addressing violence in pornography are in response to these growing concerns.
I was an avid Hinge and Tinder user and I liked to think of myself as the cool girl. But I've been thinking about it so much I'm not sure why.
There was the friend of a friend who slapped me so hard in the middle of us having sex—no warning, just from nowhere. It actually made my teeth rattle.
There's a lot of talk about online porn and what that has done to men's brains and expectations, but I also saw a lot of very violent porn when I was a teenager.
Growing concern around the normalisation of choking during sex has led to the recent announcement that pornography depicting it will be criminalised in an amendment to the Crime and Policing Bill.
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