"But when it comes to the actual intercourse part, it's always felt like nothing at best and vaguely painful at worst. I've seen doctors, but the symptoms of conditions like vaginismus and vulvodynia don't really match mine. It kind of just feels like I have no nerve endings in there at all. I've also gone to bed with enough men to know it's not just a bad partner. Toys do nothing for me either."
"A few months ago, my boyfriend and I decided to try something new. We had anal sex. I'd always been resistant to anal because I have some digestive issues, but wanted to try it, so we did, and WOW. It's like whatever nerves are missing from my vagina got put in the back door instead. I finally understood what people love about penetrative sex, and it didn't hurt at all."
"I'm thrilled to have discovered this, but obviously, it still presents some challenges. The digestive issues have not improved (and actually have worsened). And I don't think my boyfriend wants to do anal every single time we have sex (is that even healthy?). Why does anal sex feel so good for me compared to vaginal sex? Everything I've seen online says even the cis females who enjoy anal and find that it feels good still prefer vaginal sex."
A straight, cis female experiences minimal or painful sensation during vaginal intercourse despite strong clitoral responsiveness and arousal during foreplay. Medical evaluations did not match vaginismus or vulvodynia, and toys and multiple partners did not change her experience, suggesting reduced internal vaginal sensation. After trying anal sex, she experienced intense pleasurable sensations and multiple orgasms from penetration alone, with deeper penetration increasing pleasure. Digestive issues complicate anal activity and have worsened, and her partner may not want anal every time. She seeks an explanation for why anal penetration evokes strong sensation while vaginal penetration does not.
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