A new parent reports intrusive critical remarks toward a partner despite recent apologies and increased kindness. The partner was snappy during the baby’s earliest weeks, and the parent feels compelled to suppress snarky thoughts throughout the day. The question asks why postpartum feelings lead to criticism of a partner. A response suggests the criticism may stem from anger and resentment rather than hormones alone. It points to the partner’s reluctance to have a child and the early unpleasant behavior, arguing that blaming the postpartum period is no fairer than blaming hormones for snarkiness. It encourages reflection on whether gratitude is being demanded and whether resentment is present.
"Please take a minute to consider whether I might be just a little bit right. Are you resentful that he made you wait so long? That you’re supposed to be grateful he “gave” you a child? That he wasn’t wholly in it from the st"
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