A mother-to-be heard her stepfather make a racist joke about a popular children's character and told her mother she does not want him at her daughter's sixth birthday or around the family. The sister-in-law and her family belong to the targeted minority and will attend the party, creating a direct risk of harm or hurtful remarks. The mother minimized the incident and resisted excluding her husband, forcing the choice that either he stays home or both she and he stay away. The daughter's husband, her father, and her brother back her stance. Cutting off bigoted and hateful people and refusing to host them at family functions is presented as a necessary boundary.
I was at my mother's place last week, and I heard my stepfather make a racist joke about a popular children's character on the TV. I told my mother that I don't want her husband at my daughter's party or around my family in the future. She claimed "he was just making a joke" and that I'm taking it too seriously. I said as much to my mother and told her that either her husband stays home or they both do.
Yes, this is a hill worth dying on and you knew that before writing in. It is important that we cut bigoted and hateful people off (someone who didn't have those views wouldn't make a racist joke about a children's character, trust me.) Let your mother know that it is up to her whether she chooses to attend the party or not but that her husband is not welcome at family functions hosted by
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