Five Strategies to Make Yourself More Lovable

"Psychology is, after all, the discipline that uses scientific methods to analyze human thoughts, feelings, and behavior. But a shockingly large portion of pop-psych books have little or no scientific evidence underlying their confidently stated nuggets of advice about how to improve your relationships, your moods, or bad habits."

"The recently released book How to Feel Loved by Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis is a shining example of an advice book that really does belong in the psychology section. Sonja Lyubomirsky is a distinguished professor at the University of California, Riverside, who has conducted many years of rigorous research on the causes of happiness and psychological well-being."

"It begins by pointing out that to feel more loved, you need to first make others feel more loved. The authors suggest five mindsets to make your relationships more mutually affectionate."

How to Feel Loved by Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis represents a rare example of psychology literature grounded in scientific evidence rather than unsupported claims. Unlike much pop-psychology literature that lacks empirical foundation, this book draws from decades of rigorous research by distinguished academics. Lyubomirsky, a UC Riverside professor specializing in happiness and well-being, and Reis, a University of Rochester psychology dean researching relationships, combine their expertise to provide credible advice. The book's central premise establishes that feeling loved requires first making others feel loved. The authors present five specific mindsets designed to enhance mutual affection and strengthen relationships through evidence-based practices.

Read at Psychology Today