"One of the most disorienting and heart-wrenching experiences many have gone through in the aftermath of a narcissistic relationship is seeing how quickly they replace you and move on to a new relationship. More often than not, the replacement is already waiting in the sidelines where the new relationship overlaps with the current one they are trying to leave. This is known as "grooming" the new supply for external validation, ego stabilization, and control."
"A grandiose narcissist may engage in an abrupt and sudden discard where the breakup is calculated in order for them to control the narrative and to protect their public image. This often walks hand-in-hand with spreading lies or rumors to family, mutual friends, and the new supply. The exit itself is strategic and is designed to appear that they have the advantage. By securing a new replacement and reframing the breakup as the other person's fault, it makes the breakup look necessary instead of staged."
Narcissistic partners often replace and move on quickly, sometimes overlapping relationships to groom a new supply for external validation, ego stabilization, and control. Grandiose narcissists frequently execute abrupt, calculated discards to control the narrative, protect public image, and secure social advantage, often spreading lies to justify the split. They emotionally disengage long before leaving, making transitions seamless. Vulnerable narcissists tend to vanish or ghost without explanation, driven by insecurity, hypersensitivity, and withdrawal when overwhelmed. Vulnerable types also test boundaries, overstep norms, or provoke partner exits to avoid feeling like the 'bad guy.' Shame and abandonment terror underlie these patterns.
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