16 Shocking Reasons Grooms Called Off Their Weddings And Decided Not To Get Married

"I called off the wedding a month before the date. It came down to various factors, but the biggest one is that I just wasn't happy. Relationships should have an element of compromise, but it felt very one-sided for me. I don't regret the decision."

"I called off the wedding because I realized we weren't ready to make a marriage work. There are a number of skills that a couple needs to have before they can really succeed in a relationship that's meant to last a lifetime. These skills are pretty obvious: compromise, forgiveness, sacrifice, and an acceptance of the things you don't like but can never change. Shortly before the wedding, I realized that we didn't have those skills. That made me extremely uncomfortable with the prospect of going through with it. And ultimately, I couldn't bring myself to start something that I knew couldn't last forever. The mistake we made was getting engaged before we knew we had those skills - before we were ready. We gave ourselves a long engagement with the idea that we'd have time to figure out those skills before the big day finally came. But we didn't realize that it put a timer on our relationship, which essentially turned it into a time bomb. When the day came, we were either going to be ready or we were going to have a very bad time."

"My boyfriend's father joined the Navy and left on a ship to avoid his wedding day. His bride-to-be had lied to him about being pregnant to guilt him into marriage. As the big day approached, she admitted she was not pregnant at all. She felt comfortable saying this because her father had ties to the mob, and she knew he would be significantly hurt if he left Daddy's little girl at the altar. He joined the Navy to get away and dumped her as he was going to training. He ran into her decades later, and she acted as if they were old friends."

Several individuals canceled weddings shortly before the date for reasons ranging from personal unhappiness and imbalanced compromise to fundamental unreadiness for marriage. One person ended the engagement because the relationship felt one-sided and brought no regret. Another recognized a lack of core relationship skills — compromise, forgiveness, sacrifice, and acceptance — and viewed a long engagement as a timer that created pressure rather than growth. Another cancellation followed deception about pregnancy and coercive family influence, prompting the partner to join the Navy to escape. These decisions reflect mismatched expectations, coercion, and the realization that the partnership could not sustain marriage.

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