Dear Abby: The bartender said he'd give the cash to the bride. Was I wrong to involve her mother?

"A few years ago, my husband and I were invited to the wedding of a close friend's daughter. We stayed two nights at the destination and gave a $300 cash gift to the newlyweds. The evening of the wedding, when I went to put my gift into the box for cards and gifts, the big wooden box was gone. The bartender said the couple had already taken it to their room, but he would take the envelope and make sure they got it."

"After six months, I hadn't received a thank-you note, so I asked my friend if the couple had gotten my gift. I told her I was concerned because it was cash and I had given it to the bartender. She asked her daughter, who told her to tell me, We got it. Since then, my friendship with this friend seems to have become very distant."

Guests attended a destination wedding, stayed two nights, and gave a $300 cash gift to the newlyweds. The card-and-gift box was missing the evening of the reception, and a bartender agreed to deliver the envelope to the couple. Six months passed with no thank-you note, so the guest asked the close friend whether the cash had been received. The friend's daughter replied, "We got it," and the friendship became distant afterward. Seeking confirmation of a cash gift was a reasonable action given the circumstances. Lack of acknowledgment can create suspicion, hurt feelings, and perceived criticism between friends.

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