"As the big day approached and I realized my siblings were dragging their feet, I began sending out invites and reaching out to vendors. As I began to secure certain things, I'd write to my siblings, asking how they could help and when they were available. Sometimes my messages would go unanswered, or they'd say they'd let me know soon and not follow up at all."
"You are taking action and proving to them that you won't drop the ball. For the next activity, assign them specific tasks rather than asking them loosely what they will do. Yes, it will mean that you are still the organizer, but at least this way you may get some help in executing a plan. Give them deadlines and schedule required weekly meetings to review progress."
"My best friend and I have shifted from talking and texting most days to interacting only via social media. It didn't happen overnight, but at some point, I felt as though I was always initiating communication. I was in a tough season recently, and when I didn't have it in me to call or text loved ones, I realized I didn't hear from her."
One family member routinely assumes planning responsibilities for events, paperwork, and major decisions while two older siblings remain unresponsive or fail to follow through. The planner organized a parents' 30th anniversary, handled invites and vendors, and repeatedly asked siblings how they could help, ultimately executing the event alone amid mixed reactions from family. Advice emphasizes assigning specific tasks, setting deadlines, and scheduling weekly progress meetings so others can participate in execution and learn to share the load. A separate friendship has shifted to social media interactions, with one person feeling distant after a period of little outreach from the friend.
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