"Dear Stinker, I'm a woman in my 40s and I'm going through some body changes. One of them is that I am sweating a lot more than I used to-and the sweat smells really foul, to me. My husband insists he doesn't mind it and it doesn't matter, but I can smell it, and it makes me feel disgusting. I've talked to my doctor and had bloodwork done and she says there's nothing obviously wrong and thinks it's due to perimenopause."
"Believe him. Not only are there plenty of people who don't mind body odor, many of them actually like it (present company included). This is an extremely common kink/fetish among gay men, for example-there is, in fact, a party called Pheromone in New York that is centered around the smells of men ( I've mentioned it in the column regarding a similar question). From what I understand, it's typically well-attended."
A woman in her 40s reports increased, foul-smelling sweat likely related to perimenopause despite normal bloodwork. The partner insists the odor does not bother him. Many people do not mind or even enjoy natural body odor; such preferences can be common and socially organized. The respondent advises distinguishing whether the distress comes from smelling oneself or from the idea of another person smelling it. If the worry is about being smelled, trusting the partner and having the sexual experience can demonstrate that the partner genuinely does not mind.
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