The author reflects on a nine-year marriage where intimacy has significantly dwindled since marriage, despite initial expectations of a fulfilling sexual life. He describes a pattern of excuses from his wife that have distanced them physically, leading him to seek answers through self-reflection and coping behaviors like masturbation. Despite a strong partnership in other areas, he feels frustrated and confused about the discrepancy in their sexual relationship, wondering if it is a common marital issue that he must accept or if there is hope for rekindling intimacy.
To be clear, I love my wife. We have a great partnership in many ways-deep affection, shared values, beautiful children, and a life we've built together. But this one part of our relationship-this very intimate, vulnerable part-feels broken.
I've tried talking to her gently, seriously, vulnerably. She usually laughs it off or acts like things are totally fine, which honestly makes me question my own experience. It's like being gaslit in slow motion.
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