"In my head, it made sense to move things along and then sort out an understanding of what it would look like for us to see one another during a busy time. My goals were to get some momentum and make the brief times we have together satisfying. It had begun to feel stilted, and I find him extremely attractive physically and intellectually, so "it will get there eventually" was my justification. It may have been a mistake!"
"We have had sex twice, and it was awful. He suffers from premature ejaculation (PE). I can't tell if it is permanent or episodic, as he is very stressed out by his work project. Coming so quickly (once in five seconds) seems to have added to his stress. He was so embarrassed. He stopped making plans with me. As such, I sat him down for a talk."
"I think I handled this well. Did I? Also, the problem is that I can't tell how to proceed. I check in on him periodically and do run into him spontaneously as we work close by one another. He seems a mixture of stressed, embarrassed, and uninterested, maybe even avoidant. I know the project will be done in December. And I really do want to see him again."
A relationship between two people stalled when a busy partner canceled dates due to an unusual work project. Sex was attempted twice to build momentum, but both encounters were ruined by the partner's premature ejaculation, once occurring within five seconds and causing intense embarrassment. The partner became avoidant and stopped making plans. One person communicated a desire to give breathing room while expressing intent to reconnect after the project finishes in December. Uncertainty remains about how to proceed, how to express continued interest, and how to handle future sexual encounters if premature ejaculation recurs.
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