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fromwww.businessinsider.com
1 hour agoAfter a disappointing college experience, I was determined to make postgrad life better. Now I'm thriving.
Social anxiety and depression had other plans, leaving me in an ugly cycle of self-isolation and rumination. Terrified of rejection, I'd meet someone interesting during one of my English lectures and invite them out for frozen yogurt in my head.
Higher education
#burnout
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
#retirement
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours agoPsychology says the grief that follows retirement isn't about losing your job - it's about the self that only existed inside the job, the one who was competent and needed and clearly defined, and that self doesn't retire when you do, it simply loses the only environment that was ever capable of calling it into existence - Silicon Canals
Retirement challenges identity, as losing a job often means losing a coherent sense of self.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour agoThe emptiness many people feel after 70 isn't the absence of purpose - it's the absence of an audience, and those are completely different problems with completely different solutions - Silicon Canals
Retirement often leads to a loss of audience, not purpose, causing feelings of uselessness among retirees.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI retired at 64 with a generous pension and a calendar full of plans - and by month three I was staring at my phone realizing I had nobody to call just to talk, not because I needed something - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to unexpected loneliness and a realization of the lack of genuine friendships built outside of work.
#career-transition
Careers
fromFortune
1 day agoAI is about to send millions to 'professional identity purgatory.' Here's what I discovered after my 30 year career crashed to a halt | Fortune
Professional identity purgatory is a transitional phase where individuals grapple with losing their established roles and the uncertainty of their future.
Careers
fromFortune
1 day agoAI is about to send millions to 'professional identity purgatory.' Here's what I discovered after my 30 year career crashed to a halt | Fortune
Professional identity purgatory is a transitional phase where individuals grapple with losing their established roles and the uncertainty of their future.
fromwww.businessinsider.com
6 days agoI was laid off twice from the same company. The second time was a gut punch but taught me not to take cuts personally.
When the CEO held a virtual town hall in 2020 and said there needed to be layoffs, I knew I would be one of the first to go because I served zero purpose at that point.
Marketing
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoNobody talks about why Gen Z's refusal to overwork triggers boomers so deeply - it's not laziness they're seeing, it's a generation making a choice they never felt they had - Silicon Canals
Generational differences in work ethic stem from contrasting views on the meaning and value of work.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals
Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours agoThe friends who tell you the hard truth aren't the bravest people in your life. The bravest are the ones who tell you the hard truth and then stay close enough to watch it land, knowing you might not speak to them for weeks, and choosing the relationship over their own comfort anyway. - Silicon Canals
Remaining present after delivering hard truths is a significant act of bravery that often goes unrecognized.
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals
When the person you're pretending to be gets too heavy to carry, you realize that the mask you've worn for so long has become your actual face.
Retirement
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours agoPsychology suggests the adults most likely to spend their 60s and 70s in genuine contentment aren't the ones who achieved the most - they're the ones who stopped the earliest needing their life to mean something to anyone else, and that stopping, whenever it happened and for whatever reason, was the first day the actual life began - Silicon Canals
Happiness comes from being true to oneself rather than seeking validation from others.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoSome people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals
The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI'm 34 and I just realized I've been performing competence at work for seven years because somewhere along the way I confused being impressive with being safe, and the exhaustion I thought was burnout was actually the weight of never once letting anyone see me learn something for the first time. - Silicon Canals
Performing competence can lead to self-erasure and social rewards, masking genuine capability with a polished exterior.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThere's a specific kind of loyalty that keeps people in jobs, cities, and friendships years after the reason they stayed has disappeared. It's not inertia. It's that leaving would require admitting the time already spent wasn't building toward something, and that admission costs more than staying another year. - Silicon Canals
People remain in unfulfilling situations due to the fear of admitting past investments were unproductive, not because of passivity or fear of change.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours agoI was always the reliable one - the one who showed up, remembered, rearranged, and absorbed - and it took me until 58 to wonder whether anyone would have come looking if I'd stopped - Silicon Canals
Being the reliable one can lead to personal neglect and invisibility in relationships.
Higher education
fromBusiness Insider
4 weeks agoI moved 13 times over 15 years to advance my career. I would never wish this on anyone.
Frequent relocations for academic career advancement create emotional exhaustion and disconnection despite professional success, ultimately revealing the psychological cost of mobility.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 66 and I spent forty years being extremely good at my job and last spring I realized I had optimized my entire existence for the approval of people I didn't particularly like - Silicon Canals
Professional dedication can sometimes mask a deeper need for approval from others, leading to personal sacrifices and a loss of self-identity.
fromFast Company
2 weeks agoMade a mistake at work? Here's how to fix it in three easy steps
To successfully repair after a mistake, you need to acknowledge and name the mistake, validate the other person's feelings and viewpoint, and create a plan for the specific actions you will take to prevent this mistake from occurring again.
Careers
#career-advancement
Careers
fromFast Company
2 weeks agoWant a promotion? Ask yourself these three questions
Timing and readiness are crucial for successfully pursuing a promotion.
fromThe Cut
1 month ago'How Do I Quit My Job?'
I'm looking for advice on how to pursue a new job discreetly, particularly when the interview process requires multiple rounds and my current workplace has very little flexibility. I've been with my current employer for ten years. I started here before I even graduated from college, and I've grown tremendously. It's a well-regarded organization with a prestigious name, and I genuinely believe they care about their people.
Careers
fromFast Company
2 months agoHow to get satisfaction from an unfulfilling job
If you're in an unfulfilling job or are dissatisfied with your work, it's possible to get a fresh start no matter what the season. In fact, there are a few strategies that can help you find meaning and enhance your experience even as you slog forward. A lack of fulfillment in your job can have intense effects. It can derail your motivation, your energy, and even your performance.
Careers
Careers
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoI've Been Promised a Promotion for Five Years. It's Finally Happening, But There's One Big Problem.
When succeeding a beloved mentor, lead with empathy, clear communication, and respect for legacy while asserting the role's responsibilities to serve the organization.
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