Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 hours agoIs Emotional Regulation Effective Everywhere?
Emotional regulation involves actively managing emotions through suppression or reappraisal, influencing their emergence and impact on our lives.
#contingency-management
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#conflict-resolution
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who can walk away from an argument without needing the last word aren't passive or weak - they've learned that some people don't argue to understand, they argue to win, and disengaging from a game that was never designed to have a fair outcome is one of the most sophisticated emotional skills a person can develop, even though it almost always gets mistaken for not caring - Silicon Canals
Walking away from unproductive arguments reflects wisdom, not weakness, and is essential for emotional health.
#behavior-change
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhy Behaviour Change Is So Hard to Do
Behavior change fails when immediate costs exceed rewards, not due to willpower; relationships unconsciously reinforce old behaviors while punishing new ones, and reinforcement proves more effective than punishment for lasting change.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhy Behaviour Change Is So Hard to Do
Behavior change fails when immediate costs exceed rewards, not due to willpower; relationships unconsciously reinforce old behaviors while punishing new ones, and reinforcement proves more effective than punishment for lasting change.
fromIndependent
3 days agoModern Morals: My husband has just been let go from his fourth job in five years - I'm running out of patience. What can I do?
My husband has just been let go from his fourth job in five years. The first time it happened was during Covid when he was laid off, but it seemed to start a pattern.
Careers
Startup companies
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the people who find lasting success in business aren't the ones who mastered the habits productivity culture celebrates - they've quietly figured out that most of what business media treats as essential is noise, and the actual signal is found in a much smaller set of decisions most people overlook - Silicon Canals
Sustainable business success comes from focusing on key decisions rather than following productivity trends and hacks.
#self-discipline
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 hours agoPsychology suggests people who follow through on small promises to themselves aren't just building habits - they're constructing the internal evidence that they can be trusted, which is the actual foundation of lasting self-discipline - Silicon Canals
Self-discipline is shaped by accumulated evidence of personal commitments rather than mere willpower.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe cruelest myth about self-discipline is that you have to feel ready - you don't, you never will, and the people who figured that out earlier simply have more years of evidence that the feeling eventually follows the action - Silicon Canals
Self-discipline begins with action, not feelings of readiness or motivation.
#crisis-management
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThe person who thrives during a crisis and falls apart during ordinary weeks isn't broken. Their entire operating system was built for emergencies, and peace registers as a system error because they never learned what competence feels like without urgency underneath it. - Silicon Canals
Crisis-thrivers are often dysregulated, struggling with normalcy after emergencies, revealing a deeper issue with their nervous system's response to stress.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who set an alarm but always wake up five minutes before it goes off aren't light sleepers - they're people whose body never fully trusts that anything external will show up when it's supposed to, so their nervous system runs its own backup system just in case, and that five-minute head start on the day isn't a habit, it's a person who learned very early that depending on something outside yourself to wake you up is a risk their body isn't willing to take - Silicon Canals
The body wakes up before alarms due to a lack of trust in external cues, reflecting deeper psychological patterns of self-reliance.
#decision-making
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPeople who research every decision exhaustively before acting aren't thorough - they're trying to build a guarantee in a world that doesn't sell them because the last time they trusted their gut without evidence something expensive happened and the body never forgot the bill - Silicon Canals
Chronic overanalysis of decisions stems from past failures, leading to wasted time and missed opportunities.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPeople who research every decision exhaustively before acting aren't thorough - they're trying to build a guarantee in a world that doesn't sell them because the last time they trusted their gut without evidence something expensive happened and the body never forgot the bill - Silicon Canals
Chronic overanalysis of decisions stems from past failures, leading to wasted time and missed opportunities.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who get irrationally angry at small inconveniences - the slow driver, the loud chewer, the coworker who replies all - aren't actually angry about the inconvenience at all, they're carrying a much larger weight that they have no safe outlet for, and the small thing that breaks them is never the real thing, it's just the only thing in their day they're allowed to be visibly upset about without anyone asking a follow-up question - Silicon Canals
Small frustrations often mask deeper emotional struggles and unresolved issues.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPeople who are excellent in emergencies and fall apart during ordinary weeks aren't wired wrong. Their nervous system was calibrated for crisis, and calm registers as the absence of signal rather than the presence of safety. They function brilliantly when the house is burning because fire is the only temperature that feels familiar. - Silicon Canals
The autonomic nervous system has a social engagement system that affects how individuals respond to stress and calm.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoSocial psychologists found that people who keep their living spaces immaculate aren't necessarily organized - many of them learned that a clean house was the only form of control available in a childhood where everything else was unpredictable - Silicon Canals
Compulsive cleanliness in some individuals is a trauma response linked to childhood adversity, not merely a sign of organization or virtue.
fromPsychology Today
5 days agoMy Child Has Autism: How Do I Know the Program Is Working?
If the application of behavioral techniques does not produce large enough effects for practical value, then the application has failed. Practical value is whatever you define as meaningful for your child's life.
Mental health
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who rehearse conversations in their head before making a phone call aren't anxious for no reason - at some point in their life, saying the wrong thing had real consequences, and now they edit every sentence before it leaves their mouth like a person who learned the hard way that words can't be taken back once they land on someone who keeps score - Silicon Canals
Mental rehearsals before phone calls stem from past negative experiences and can significantly impact communication behavior.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says people who stay calm under pressure aren't suppressing their emotions - they've built a relationship with discomfort that most people spend their whole lives avoiding - Silicon Canals
Calm individuals process emotions differently, using reappraisal instead of suppression to manage stress and discomfort.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThe people who forgive quickly and the people who forgive slowly are not experiencing the same emotion. Quick forgiveness is often a nervous system releasing a threat. Slow forgiveness is a mind rebuilding a model of someone it can no longer predict. - Silicon Canals
Forgiveness is a complex process influenced by biological and psychological factors, not simply a choice between letting go or holding grudges.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoHow Science Is Learning to Explore Ground Truth
Some clinicians have an uncanny quality. A colleague describes herself and others with this instinct as "witchy"-a capacity to know things about patients they haven't said yet, to follow a stray association to a song lyric or a half-remembered cultural reference and arrive, reliably, at something the patient urgently needed to say but couldn't reach on their own. We see with artificial intelligence these intriguing possibilities for discovery, especially as connections that human beings never would see pop out of apparently unrelated data.
Science
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhat if Addiction Isn't the Problem?
Addiction's lack of clear definition undermines regulatory efforts against corporations; reframing addiction as a common human state rather than inherently harmful could better address actual harms and protect children from exploitative design.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoWhy Teens Ignore Warnings and What Actually Works
Without effective tools and preparation, many parents understandably default to instinct and use common ineffective tactics, such as warning, advising, informing, or trying to control their teens. The adolescent brain has been compared to a car with a powerful gas pedal and weak brakes when in the presence of other teens or when expecting to be seen by them (Bulow, 2022; Steinberg, 2008). Further, they are drawn to peers, and then instinctively rev each other up into risky experimentation and sensation-seeking.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoWhy Addiction Treatment Keeps Failing
For decades, addiction treatment in the United States has relied on a familiar explanation when people relapse: recovery is hard, addiction is chronic and setbacks are part of the process. That narrative is often delivered with compassion, but it can obscure a more troubling reality. Many treatment failures are not personal shortcomings. They are predictable outcomes of how recovery is currently designed.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoPsychiatric drugs aren't always the answer | Letter
Yes, there has been a shocking lack of progress in developing transformative psychiatric medicine (We need new drugs for mental ill-health, 5 February), but this may be because in mental health, drugs are not always the answer (see, for example, Richard P Bentall's Doctoring the Mind). Huge progress has been made in the effectiveness of talking therapies for example, free effective treatment for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is available to all UK army veterans through the charity PTSD Resolution.
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