Nearly half of non-Feeld users (42%) said they practice kink, compared to 68% of the app's user base. In some areas, everyday folks were even kinkier than Feeld members: Among those who practice kink, 44% of external respondents said they engage in role play, just above the 41% of Feeld users that said the same.
Visualising "your best life" can boost mood and create a sense of hopefulness. That good feeling you get, and the boost in your mood, are nothing to sneeze at, but-and there is a but-feeling good is not the same as creating change. And this is where it can get tricky when you are applying it to a sex life that you actively want to change.
It's absolutely possible to be experiencing pelvic pain due to orgasm. Firstly, you live in your body full time, and you're present for every orgasm you have, so I'm inclined to trust the pattern you're seeing. Secondly, I've known more than one person who enjoys sex but actively avoids orgasms for the exact same reason as you.
A few years ago, I, a 21-year-old man, agreed to take part in a stupid frat hazing activity. Unbeknownst to "Felipe," a 21-year-old man, I performed oral sex on him during that activity while he was blindfolded. At the time, Felipe was just an acquaintance-we didn't become good friends until much later. Felipe's big brother at the frat, "Ron," is the only person besides me who knows that I performed oral on Felipe.
The moment sex becomes something you owe rather than something you want, the dynamic shifts entirely. It reframes intimacy as a transaction, and that's where things start to go wrong. Sex debt thinking often comes from a place of insecurity or poor communication. Usually, couples have never discussed what sex actually means to them in the context of their relationship.
The realm of intimate relationships is wide and diverse, providing endless opportunities to discover joy, pleasure and connection. But exploring new ground without consent from both parties may cause unease, betrayals of confidence and even injury. A good sexual relationship depends on this kind of conversation because it ensures that any exploration is grounded in permission and mutual curiosity, strengthening the connection and enhancing the experience for both parties.
In the past, when we've done these analyses, we've seen couples express an interest in bondage play or sensory play. But this year, we're almost seeing a shift towards getting back to basics. I found it so interesting that regardless of gender, age or where you live, people want more oral sex.
At any point, any of your partners may have been thinking of someone (or even something) else to help themselves get over the edge. The idea of making someone orgasm with, to put it your way, just you is an illusion. People bring a lifetime of experience to the sex they have, including ways to help facilitate orgasm. Sex alone may not be enough to get your wife to come.
With Valentine's Day around the corner, you might be thinking about buying a sexy gift for someone you love, or for yourself, and feeling completely overwhelmed by the options. This week on Just Between Us, Jennifer Zamparelli is joined by Shawna Scott of Sex Siopa to cut through the confusion and talk sex toys without shame or pressure. From bullets to bondage, dildos to dilators,
Her preferred form of intimacy is to touch herself while letting me pump her mouth. It's been great and honestly hot, and she leans submissive in bed, so it's worked out well on that end, too. It's perfectly fulfilling for me and even unintentionally kinky in a way I like, and she says she enjoys that I'm still actively penetrating her even if not in a typical way.
I am a bisexual, 50-year-old woman who enjoys threesomes, including with the most common configuration of a bisexual woman partnered with a straight male. All my past encounters have been amazing-open communication, everyone hot for everyone, natural transitions between constellations of two and three people interacting. However, last night I ended up in bed with a couple, and once we got our clothes off, something happened.
You are being asked to play into the contorted (you might even say deluded) way that many obsess about penis size. Inflation runs especially high on apps, where (at least in the gay world) it is wise to subtract an inch (or two!) from whatever number a guy presents. Continuing the charade IRL can feel like actively thrusting yourself into absurdism. You don't have to lie to anyone for the sake of their penis-shaped ego.
First of all, let me put your mind at ease. Having this thought does not make you a villain. It makes you a long-term partnered adult with a pulse. Most people don't wake up one morning and think, "Ah yes, swinging - this will clearly solve everything." Curiosity like this usually shows up more quietly. It's often less about wanting other people and more about wanting something back: playfulness, aliveness, the feeling that sex is still a place of discovery.
