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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours ago

You know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals

Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
Portland food
fromKqed
7 hours ago

Indigenous Communities Reclaim Ancestral Lands and Waters | KQED

The Potter Valley Pomo tribe creates a community forest for youth camps and events, marking a significant cultural initiative in California.
fromPsychology Today
5 hours ago

What Are Young People's Most Important Life Goals?

Life History Theory emphasizes the tradeoffs individuals make in allocating energy to survival, growth, and reproduction, highlighting the competitive nature of energy acquisition.
Psychology
#lgbtq
LGBT
fromQueerty
7 hours ago

Gay men reveal the things they've vowed never to do again - Queerty

Many gay men shared personal commitments to avoid certain actions or decisions, reflecting on past experiences and lessons learned.
Film
fromQueerty
1 day ago

WATCH: This shocking camboy drama pushes queer cinema into provocative new territory - Queerty

Blue Film is a provocative camboy drama exploring taboo subjects and complex human relationships between a sex worker and his former teacher.
Parenting
fromLGBTQ Nation
4 days ago

Adoption is a beautiful way to build a family. But it's not one-size-fits-all. - LGBTQ Nation

Adoption has various paths, each with unique processes, costs, and timelines, requiring thorough understanding before proceeding.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
1 day ago

Trans people face an existential threat in Idaho, but the resistance continues - LGBTQ Nation

Idaho's recent legislation imposes severe penalties on trans individuals and bans the Pride flag, prompting protests and arrests.
Right-wing politics
fromLGBTQ Nation
8 months ago

Gay makeup artist mocks right-wing "bozos" for using his photo to celebrate rugged masculinity - LGBTQ Nation

A gay makeup artist humorously highlights a far-right troll's mistake in using his image to promote conventional masculinity, unaware of his true identity.
SF LGBT
fromQueerty
4 days ago

WATCH: Closeted '90s kids find their voice-and each other-in this charming coming-of-age comedy - Queerty

Student radio shows can empower closeted youth, fostering community and self-expression while navigating the challenges of popularity and faculty scrutiny.
LGBT
fromQueerty
7 hours ago

Gay men reveal the things they've vowed never to do again - Queerty

Many gay men shared personal commitments to avoid certain actions or decisions, reflecting on past experiences and lessons learned.
Film
fromQueerty
1 day ago

WATCH: This shocking camboy drama pushes queer cinema into provocative new territory - Queerty

Blue Film is a provocative camboy drama exploring taboo subjects and complex human relationships between a sex worker and his former teacher.
Parenting
fromLGBTQ Nation
4 days ago

Adoption is a beautiful way to build a family. But it's not one-size-fits-all. - LGBTQ Nation

Adoption has various paths, each with unique processes, costs, and timelines, requiring thorough understanding before proceeding.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
1 day ago

Trans people face an existential threat in Idaho, but the resistance continues - LGBTQ Nation

Idaho's recent legislation imposes severe penalties on trans individuals and bans the Pride flag, prompting protests and arrests.
Right-wing politics
fromLGBTQ Nation
8 months ago

Gay makeup artist mocks right-wing "bozos" for using his photo to celebrate rugged masculinity - LGBTQ Nation

A gay makeup artist humorously highlights a far-right troll's mistake in using his image to promote conventional masculinity, unaware of his true identity.
SF LGBT
fromQueerty
4 days ago

WATCH: Closeted '90s kids find their voice-and each other-in this charming coming-of-age comedy - Queerty

Student radio shows can empower closeted youth, fostering community and self-expression while navigating the challenges of popularity and faculty scrutiny.
Design
fromDesign Milk
11 hours ago

OUTSIDERS Investigates the Space Between Society and Solitude

Modern design challenges conventional public seating to enhance social interaction and presence in urban spaces.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and I finally learned the hardest lesson isn't that people will disappoint you - it's that you'll disappoint yourself by pretending you don't need what you need until you forget what that even was - Silicon Canals

Neglecting emotional needs leads to a profound sense of loss and disconnection from oneself and others.
NYC LGBT
fromAdvocate.com
7 hours ago

What is the trans gaze? It's relief and recognition between strangers on a train

Trans women share a unique, unspoken connection on the New York City subway, recognized through brief, meaningful glances.
Books
fromThe Atlantic
7 hours ago

Unconventional Novels About Conventional People

Aging revolutionaries and conformists share parallel narratives of disillusionment and the loss of youthful dreams in recent literature.
#identity
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a specific kind of exhaustion that comes not from doing too much but from performing a version of yourself all day that doesn't actually exist. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the distance between who people think you are and who you become the moment the door closes. - Silicon Canals

Performance in social settings creates psychological fatigue due to the gap between projected identity and true self.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says the reason most people never truly change isn't laziness - it's that they've built an identity around their flaws that they don't know who they'd be without them - Silicon Canals

People struggle to change not due to laziness, but because their flaws are integrated into their identity, making change feel like a threat to the self.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a specific kind of exhaustion that comes not from doing too much but from performing a version of yourself all day that doesn't actually exist. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the distance between who people think you are and who you become the moment the door closes. - Silicon Canals

Performance in social settings creates psychological fatigue due to the gap between projected identity and true self.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says the reason most people never truly change isn't laziness - it's that they've built an identity around their flaws that they don't know who they'd be without them - Silicon Canals

People struggle to change not due to laziness, but because their flaws are integrated into their identity, making change feel like a threat to the self.
fromSmithsonian Magazine
13 hours ago

Native Nations Fought in the American Revolution to Protect Their Ancestral Lands. After the War, Settlers Seized Their Territory Anyway

"Once the Declaration of Independence is issued by Congress, then it kind of changes the calculus. Then, both sides are putting pressure on Native people to join one side or the other."
History
#transgender-day-of-visibility
SF LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
1 day ago

Beloved children's singer melts hearts with message for trans kids: "You are a beautiful light" - LGBTQ Nation

Laurie Berkner supports trans kids, affirming their beauty and encouraging self-care on Transgender Day of Visibility.
SF LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days ago

We especially need to uplift joyous Black trans lives on this Trans Day of Visibility - LGBTQ Nation

Transgender Day of Visibility celebrates Black trans lives and contributions while addressing ongoing violence against the community.
SF LGBT
fromMission Local
3 days ago

Meet the people driving trans visibility in San Francisco

The International Transgender Day of Visibility celebrates trans contributions, with activists like Cal Calamia advocating for non-binary inclusion in sports.
SF LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
1 day ago

Beloved children's singer melts hearts with message for trans kids: "You are a beautiful light" - LGBTQ Nation

Laurie Berkner supports trans kids, affirming their beauty and encouraging self-care on Transgender Day of Visibility.
SF LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days ago

We especially need to uplift joyous Black trans lives on this Trans Day of Visibility - LGBTQ Nation

Transgender Day of Visibility celebrates Black trans lives and contributions while addressing ongoing violence against the community.
SF LGBT
fromMission Local
3 days ago

Meet the people driving trans visibility in San Francisco

The International Transgender Day of Visibility celebrates trans contributions, with activists like Cal Calamia advocating for non-binary inclusion in sports.
Growth hacking
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The people who look most successful on the outside often have no idea what they're doing - they just learned early that confidence and competence look identical from a distance - Silicon Canals

The gap between perceived success and actual competence is significant, often leading to overconfidence in those with limited knowledge.
Marketing
fromForbes
1 day ago

To Get Powerful Publicity, Build A Narrative Strategy

Building a clear, consistent narrative strategy is essential for organizations to connect with stakeholders and achieve sustainable success.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals

Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
fromThe Nation
1 day ago

What Made This Seder Different From Any Other Seder?

The event was once described by The New York Times as 'a cross between a Jewish summer camp in the Catskills and a progressive jazz concert.' Past incarnations have featured Laurie Anderson, Philip Glass, Lou Reed.
NYC music
fromHyperallergic
2 days ago

A Palestinian-American Photographer's Intimate Gaze

"In 'break bad (freddy flexing)' (2021), a slim man's attempt to exert physical strength instead displays his fragility. A gentleness in his eyes suggests truer strength beneath the performance."
Arts
fromLGBTQ Nation
2 days ago

Freedom of speech can never trump liberation - LGBTQ Nation

A chief tenet of liberation is the freedom to define oneself while being accorded the rights and privileges established and guaranteed under law and social standing.
Social justice
fromPhilosophynow
2 days ago
Philosophy

The Collective City

Islamic philosophy invites plurality and coexistence, emphasizing the importance of dialogue and the acceptance of error in understanding.
Right-wing politics
fromWIRED
3 days ago

The Promise of 'Woke 2' Is Fueling a Leftist Fever Dream

Donald Trump's 2024 victory was seen as a rejection of 'woke' ideology, leading to a culture of offensive speech without fear of consequences.
London music
fromIndependent
6 days ago

'Now it's almost trendy, but it used to be something I was so ashamed of. I would never talk about it in a work setting'

Thommas Kane Byrne emphasizes the importance of authentic working-class voices in theater and discusses his journey with ADHD and hard work.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals

Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
Writing
fromThe Nation
2 days ago

My Years-Long Fight to Say "They"

The author reflects on their journey of writing about their experiences as a Jehovah's Witness and the challenges faced in publishing.
#transgender
NYC LGBT
fromwww.amny.com
2 days ago

Indelible' voices: How the NYC trans community is fighting erasure from a Lower East Side stage | amNewYork

Indelible is a forum for trans people to share their stories and foster understanding.
SF LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days ago

8 unapologetically trans-owned businesses redefining fashion, art, and more - LGBTQ Nation

Trans individuals significantly influence culture and deserve visibility and support, especially through trans-owned businesses.
NYC LGBT
fromwww.amny.com
2 days ago

Indelible' voices: How the NYC trans community is fighting erasure from a Lower East Side stage | amNewYork

Indelible is a forum for trans people to share their stories and foster understanding.
SF LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days ago

8 unapologetically trans-owned businesses redefining fashion, art, and more - LGBTQ Nation

Trans individuals significantly influence culture and deserve visibility and support, especially through trans-owned businesses.
fromFast Company
1 day ago

What to do after a life-defining mistake

The only thing worse than making a mistake is keeping it bottled up inside. Learning from the mistakes of others could help you embark on the healing journey of sharing and working through a mistake of your own, with someone you trust.
Books
History
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 days ago

How can you forget me': show details Filipino Americans' rich history

The exhibition showcases the lives and stories of Filipino migrants, emphasizing their humanity beyond labor history.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Not everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals

People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
Arts
fromHyperallergic
2 days ago

Woman With Her Back to the Viewer in Gallery Photos Speaks Out

The Woman With Her Back to the Viewer embodies a modern-day Rückenfigur, revealing her unique role in the art world and personal routine.
#conversion-therapy
Film
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days ago

23 films that expose the reality of conversion therapy - LGBTQ Nation

Conversion therapy is inhumane, ineffective, and continues to have lasting emotional and cultural effects on individuals and society.
Film
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days ago

23 films that expose the reality of conversion therapy - LGBTQ Nation

Conversion therapy is inhumane, ineffective, and continues to have lasting emotional and cultural effects on individuals and society.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals

Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
#mental-health
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago
Writing

I was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals

fromPsychology Today
1 week ago
Mental health

We All Belong: A Perspective on People on the Outskirts

People with psychosis and mental health conditions often feel a profound sense of not belonging in society and psychiatric settings.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals

Pretending to be okay while feeling empty can trap individuals in a cycle of unhappiness.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

We All Belong: A Perspective on People on the Outskirts

People with psychosis and mental health conditions often feel a profound sense of not belonging in society and psychiatric settings.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When Parts Begin to Merge: Inside Integration

Integration is a complex, lived experience involving reorganization of the self, requiring safety and support systems for healing from complex trauma.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
1 day ago

Is "gender exploratory therapy" just conversion therapy with a new name? - LGBTQ Nation

Gender exploratory therapy is a controversial approach that some view as pathologizing non-binary identities while others see it as a cautious exploration of gender identity.
NYC LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
1 day ago

Shocking video shows man attacking gay reality TV couple's vehicle in road rage incident - LGBTQ Nation

A road rage incident in West Hollywood involved a man attacking a gay couple's car while they were inside, fearing for their safety.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The most liberating thing you can learn after 40 is that 'because I don't want to' is a complete and legitimate reason - not an opening argument - Silicon Canals

Saying 'no' without justification can lead to a more fulfilling life.
fromwww.npr.org
2 days ago

Homesick in a foreign country, a teenager meets a lifelong friend

"I could understand the language somewhat, but I was terrible about speaking it. My accent was terrible. People could not understand me," Deiaco-Smith said.
Arts
Social justice
fromTruthout
3 days ago

It's Not Just Huerta. For Many Survivors, Silence Seems Like the Only Option.

Sexual abuse within movements, exemplified by Cesar Chavez, must be addressed to foster change and protect survivors' dignity.
#emotional-intelligence
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

People who go quiet when they're hurt instead of raising their voice learned somewhere very early that their anger wasn't received as information. It was received as an inconvenience. So they stopped sending the signal and started absorbing the damage, and they've been doing it so long they sometimes mistake silence for calm - Silicon Canals

Silence during conflict often indicates deeper emotional pain rather than composure or passive aggression.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

People who go quiet when they're hurt instead of raising their voice learned somewhere very early that their anger wasn't received as information. It was received as an inconvenience. So they stopped sending the signal and started absorbing the damage, and they've been doing it so long they sometimes mistake silence for calm - Silicon Canals

Silence during conflict often indicates deeper emotional pain rather than composure or passive aggression.
Books
fromThe Atlantic
4 days ago

How Long Can You Live Your Ideals?

Pat Calhoun chooses parenthood over radicalism, paralleling Elsa Haddish's struggle between her militant past and raising her daughter safely.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology suggests people who downplay their birthday don't want less - they want the specific thing most birthdays have never delivered, which is the felt sense of being genuinely celebrated rather than obligatorily acknowledged, and they stopped asking for it because stopping felt better than hoping and being let down again - Silicon Canals

Some people avoid celebrating birthdays due to feelings of disconnection from superficial acknowledgments.
LGBT
fromAdvocate.com
3 days ago

Trans people are here to stay, no matter who tries to erase us

Understanding the gender spectrum and dismantling misconceptions about trans identities is crucial for acceptance and recognition of diverse gender experiences.
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 days ago

Women behind the lens: I grew up hating my natural hair. But I transformed that pain into something empowering'

I create sculptural hairstyles using my natural hair as a material. I add some extensions, and shape it with thread and wire. A sculpture can take me from 30 minutes to more than six hours.
Writing
fromAdvocate.com
3 days ago

12 portraits of transgender beauty and resilience in the Deep South

Exploring Transgender Identity in South Carolina is a candid photographic and interview-based documentation of transgender life in South Carolina. This project offers a contemporary visual record of a community that exists largely outside of that narrative yet within its realities.
SF LGBT
Social justice
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

Is calling a woman auntie' ageist harassment or a mark of respect? It's a trickier question than you think | Lola Okolosie

Respecting how individuals wish to be addressed is essential, as demonstrated by the tribunal ruling in favor of Ilda Esteves against Charles Oppong.
#self-worth
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says if you want your 70s to be the best years of your life you have to stop doing something most people don't quit until it's too late - and the quitting isn't dramatic, it's just the daily decision to stop measuring yourself by a standard that was always someone else's and never actually yours - Silicon Canals

Measuring worth by external standards leads to dissatisfaction; true value comes from personal fulfillment, not societal expectations.
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago
Psychology

I'm 37 and I realized last year that I've been measuring my worth by how useful I am to people - and I genuinely don't know who I am when no one needs me - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says if you want your 70s to be the best years of your life you have to stop doing something most people don't quit until it's too late - and the quitting isn't dramatic, it's just the daily decision to stop measuring yourself by a standard that was always someone else's and never actually yours - Silicon Canals

Measuring worth by external standards leads to dissatisfaction; true value comes from personal fulfillment, not societal expectations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and I realized last year that I've been measuring my worth by how useful I am to people - and I genuinely don't know who I am when no one needs me - Silicon Canals

Identity can be heavily tied to being useful to others, leading to a crisis when that role is absent.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
2 days ago

World's biggest trans flag unfurled: "It stands for our resistance and triumphs" - LGBTQ Nation

A massive trans Pride flag was unfurled in Brisbane, Australia, to honor the Trans Day of Visibility, emphasizing rights for trans and gender diverse individuals.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the reason aging people feel like they don't matter isn't about what they've lost - it's that society defines mattering as productivity and visibility, and the moment you step outside those narrow roles, your value becomes invisible even to people who love you - Silicon Canals

Retirement and aging can lead to feelings of invisibility and worthlessness due to society's narrow definitions of productivity.
SF LGBT
fromBronx Times
2 days ago

'You saved my life': How one Bronx social worker helps transgender patients recover with dignity - Bronx Times

Asha Lyons provides vital support to transgender patients during recovery, emphasizing the importance of visibility and care in their journeys.
Arts
fromHyperallergic
1 week ago

Social Malpractice in the Age of Cultural Compliance

Socially engaged art faces challenges in a world increasingly hostile to independent thought and public expression.
Social justice
fromwww.aljazeera.com
4 days ago

Green and Yellow: Two lines that separate me from my land

Palestinians commemorate Land Day, reflecting on historical dispossession and the enduring connection to their ancestral land.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 34 and I've started noticing that the friends I made in my twenties loved the version of me that was convenient for them. The version that said yes, split the bill when I couldn't afford it, and never made my problems anyone else's weight. Growing out of that person cost me half my contacts and none of my peace. - Silicon Canals

Social circles can shrink as people evolve, reflecting personal growth rather than failure in maintaining friendships.
#transgender-rights
fromLGBTQ Nation
2 months ago
LGBT

"We deserve wrinkles": The fight for trans youth is a fight for a future with trans elders in it - LGBTQ Nation

Restrictive laws and federal proposals limit transgender and nonbinary youths' access to best-practice health care, increasing mental-health harms and suicide risk.
fromLGBTQ Nation
2 months ago
LGBT

"We deserve wrinkles": The fight for trans youth is a fight for a future with trans elders in it - LGBTQ Nation

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I stopped explaining myself when I apologize and the reactions taught me exactly which people in my life had been treating my explanations as retractions. To them, sorry with a reason attached meant sorry didn't really count, and sorry without one meant I was finally admitting fault on their terms. - Silicon Canals

Apologies without explanations reveal who truly listens and who seeks loopholes.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says the midlife crisis isn't about wanting something new - it's the moment you finally hear your own voice after decades of executing someone else's blueprint and mistake the unfamiliarity for chaos - Silicon Canals

Midlife crisis often reflects an identity confrontation rather than mere loss, revealing buried personal preferences and voices.
Arts
fromHyperallergic
1 week ago

White Girls and the Global South

Spring offers a variety of art books to rejuvenate reading habits, featuring diverse themes and historical insights.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days ago

Transmasc trio places third at Ironman triathlon: "I felt my inner child just explode out of me" - LGBTQ Nation

Transmasculine athletes celebrated their achievements while addressing discrimination against trans individuals in sports after the IOC's ban on transgender women.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says the people who actually escape loneliness don't do it by finding more people - they do it by finally dropping the version of themselves that made real connection impossible in the first place - Silicon Canals

Loneliness stems from a lack of genuine connection, not merely from being alone or having many acquaintances.
Social justice
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

I Always Thought I Was an Accepting Person. Then an Influx of Immigrants Moved In-and My Reaction Startled Me.

Acknowledging and confronting personal prejudices is a crucial step towards becoming a better ally.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There's a particular kind of strength that belongs to people who rebuilt their entire personality after 40 - not because something broke them, but because they finally had enough distance from their childhood to see what was never theirs to carry - Silicon Canals

Personality changes after forty often reflect a deeper honesty about one's true self rather than a crisis or breakdown.
Psychology
fromFast Company
2 days ago

Why your successful life doesn't leave you fulfilled

Success is subjective; many feel unfulfilled despite achievements due to societal comparisons and not pursuing personal desires.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Why Creative People Struggle to Commit to One Path

Multipotentiality reflects cognitive flexibility and creativity, challenging the notion that pursuing multiple interests indicates a lack of focus.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Misreading Success: Life's Most Underrated Virtue

Humility is an underrated virtue that can significantly influence success, contrasting with overconfidence seen in figures like Jesse Livermore.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I used to be unhappy and I blamed everything around me - until I realized I'd built an entire life around avoiding the one conversation I needed to have with myself - Silicon Canals

Unhappiness often stems from avoiding self-reflection and attributing life issues to external factors rather than personal choices.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the worst part of people-pleasing isn't the exhaustion - it's realizing that no one actually knows you because you never gave them the real version - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to exhaustion and prevents genuine intimacy, as it creates a façade that others connect with instead of the true self.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 weeks ago

Learning to accept herself as a bi, trans woman only took some space... and Pride patches - LGBTQ Nation

Van's journey from hiding her bisexuality to openly embracing her trans identity demonstrates how community support enables self-acceptance and resilience against family disapproval.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

The people who seem unbothered by what others think of them aren't indifferent. They just moved the audience from external to internal sometime in their thirties and never told anyone about the shift. - Silicon Canals

Calmness is often misinterpreted as indifference; true calm comes from internalizing self-judgment rather than dismissing external opinions.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

The moment I stopped explaining myself to people who had already decided who I was, I got back an amount of energy I didn't realize I'd been spending - Silicon Canals

Attempting to change someone's predetermined perception of you depletes mental energy through cognitive labor, causing measurable physical and psychological exhaustion.
fromAdvocate.com
2 months ago

Lessons from a trans man on how to tell our stories

I've spent the last 25 years since I transitioned being spoken by lawmakers, by media, by people who have never met me but feel entitled to decide what my life means. The pressure to explain, justify, or exist as a symbol in somebody else's mythology is constant. It's part of why my film, Becoming a Man in 127 EASY Steps, exists: to narrate a trans life from the inside, rather than explain it to outsiders.
LGBT
Psychology
fromTODAY.com
2 months ago

Her Adoptive Name Was Offensive in Some Cultures. At 25, She Changed It

An adoptee changed her first name to escape masculine connotations and cultural stigma and choose a name reflecting femininity, openness, and personal identity.
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