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If a teenager who always ate dinner with the family suddenly starts taking their plate to their room-most parents see rejection. What's usually happening is one of these 6 developmental shifts, and the parent who handles it best is the one who does the hardest thing: Nothing. - Silicon Canals

Teenagers eating alone in their rooms reflects normal developmental individuation, not parental failure, and requires minimal parental intervention.

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Children who were praised only for achievements and never for simply existing often become adults who cannot relax unless they feel they've earned the right to - Silicon Canals

A child who only hears praise when they perform, who never hears 'I just like having you around' or 'You don't have to do anything special for me to love being your parent,' learns something far more corrosive: that their baseline state is insufficient. The lesson isn't explicit. No parent sits their child down and says, 'You are only lovable when productive.' The lesson is absorbed through thousands of micro-moments.

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If a teenager who always ate dinner with the family suddenly starts taking their plate to their room-most parents see rejection. What's usually happening is one of these 6 developmental shifts, and the parent who handles it best is the one who does the hardest thing: Nothing. - Silicon Canals

Children who were praised only for achievements and never for simply existing often become adults who cannot relax unless they feel they've earned the right to - Silicon Canals

#parenting-psychology
#parenting-psychology