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#loneliness
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours ago

Loneliness doesn't always look like an empty room. Sometimes it looks like a person who laughs at every joke, remembers every birthday, shows up at every event, and drives home afterward in total silence wondering why none of it ever reaches the part of them that's still starving. - Silicon Canals

Social starvation and social performance can coexist, leading to a deeper crisis of loneliness that isn't solely defined by the absence of social contact.
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago
Relationships

The cruelest form of loneliness isn't having nobody. It's having people who love you in a way that doesn't quite reach the part of you that needs reaching, so you feel guilty for still being hungry at a table that everyone else thinks is full. - Silicon Canals

fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago
Writing

I'm 66 and the loneliest I've ever felt wasn't after my children left or my friends moved away - it was the morning I woke up and realized I had nothing that needed me, nothing that depended on my showing up, and the whole day stretched ahead like a road with no destination - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a particular kind of loneliness that only hits people who are well-liked. It's the loneliness of being chosen for your warmth but never asked about your winters. Everyone assumes the person who makes them feel good must already feel good, and the assumption becomes the cage. - Silicon Canals

Well-liked individuals often mask their struggles, leading to loneliness despite social popularity.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Nobody prepares you for the particular loneliness of not enjoying your own life - not because it's empty, but because it looks so full from the outside that you can't even say it out loud without feeling like you're complaining - Silicon Canals

Loneliness can stem from feeling disconnected from a seemingly successful life, leading to a hollow experience despite external appearances.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the loneliness of having no close friends is not the same loneliness of being isolated - it is the loneliness of being consistently almost known, of spending years in relationships that go up to the edge of real intimacy and stop, and the stopping is always the same stopping and it is always your own hand on the door - Silicon Canals

Real connection requires depth, not just quantity, in relationships to avoid feelings of isolation.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours ago

Loneliness doesn't always look like an empty room. Sometimes it looks like a person who laughs at every joke, remembers every birthday, shows up at every event, and drives home afterward in total silence wondering why none of it ever reaches the part of them that's still starving. - Silicon Canals

Social starvation and social performance can coexist, leading to a deeper crisis of loneliness that isn't solely defined by the absence of social contact.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The cruelest form of loneliness isn't having nobody. It's having people who love you in a way that doesn't quite reach the part of you that needs reaching, so you feel guilty for still being hungry at a table that everyone else thinks is full. - Silicon Canals

Loneliness can persist even in loving relationships when emotional needs remain unmet and unexpressed.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 66 and the loneliest I've ever felt wasn't after my children left or my friends moved away - it was the morning I woke up and realized I had nothing that needed me, nothing that depended on my showing up, and the whole day stretched ahead like a road with no destination - Silicon Canals

Loneliness can stem from feeling unnecessary, not just from being alone.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a particular kind of loneliness that only hits people who are well-liked. It's the loneliness of being chosen for your warmth but never asked about your winters. Everyone assumes the person who makes them feel good must already feel good, and the assumption becomes the cage. - Silicon Canals

Well-liked individuals often mask their struggles, leading to loneliness despite social popularity.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Nobody prepares you for the particular loneliness of not enjoying your own life - not because it's empty, but because it looks so full from the outside that you can't even say it out loud without feeling like you're complaining - Silicon Canals

Loneliness can stem from feeling disconnected from a seemingly successful life, leading to a hollow experience despite external appearances.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the loneliness of having no close friends is not the same loneliness of being isolated - it is the loneliness of being consistently almost known, of spending years in relationships that go up to the edge of real intimacy and stop, and the stopping is always the same stopping and it is always your own hand on the door - Silicon Canals

Real connection requires depth, not just quantity, in relationships to avoid feelings of isolation.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
6 hours ago

Why You Feel Empty After Achieving Your Goals

The arrival fallacy explains post-achievement emptiness, revealing that many goals are inherited rather than authentically chosen.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours ago

I'm 66 and I've watched myself become distant from people I genuinely care about - not because I stopped loving them, but because somewhere in my sixties I realized that most of my relationships were being kept alive by effort that only moved in one direction - Silicon Canals

Relationships often require one-sided effort, leading to realizations about who truly values the connection.
Careers
fromFast Company
7 hours ago

How new perspectives come from moonwalking

Gravity serves as a metaphor for cultural forces that shape organizational dynamics and individual experiences.
#grief
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

I've spent 20 years treading water and fear that I've wasted so much time. Am I depressed? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

Struggles with personal identity and grief lead to feelings of stagnation and a desire for change in life circumstances.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

Nobody warns you that grief and loneliness are two different animals that hunt together. Grief takes the person. Loneliness takes every small moment you used to share with them and leaves you standing in the kitchen holding two coffee cups out of habit, morning after morning, until you teach yourself to reach for one. - Silicon Canals

Grief and loneliness are distinct experiences that affect individuals differently, with grief being a communal event and loneliness a persistent absence.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

I've spent 20 years treading water and fear that I've wasted so much time. Am I depressed? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

Struggles with personal identity and grief lead to feelings of stagnation and a desire for change in life circumstances.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

Nobody warns you that grief and loneliness are two different animals that hunt together. Grief takes the person. Loneliness takes every small moment you used to share with them and leaves you standing in the kitchen holding two coffee cups out of habit, morning after morning, until you teach yourself to reach for one. - Silicon Canals

Grief and loneliness are distinct experiences that affect individuals differently, with grief being a communal event and loneliness a persistent absence.
Arts
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 day ago

Art, sex, nature: why is everything sold to us as a means to an end, rather than an end in itself?

Art should be valued for its own sake, not merely for its utilitarian benefits or health claims.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours ago

I'm 66 and I worked six days a week for thirty-four years, missed recitals, missed dinners, missed the kind of ordinary weekday mornings I can never get back. My son works remotely, logs off at five, and coaches his daughter's soccer team. I'm not angry at him. I'm grieving for myself. - Silicon Canals

Parenthood involves complex emotions, including pride and loss, as sacrifices made for children can lead to feelings of regret and deficit.
Philosophy
fromThe Atlantic
1 day ago

The Eighth Deadly Sin

The modern experience of disconnection and emptiness may represent a new form of sin, akin to the medieval concept of acedia.
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Grief, Storytelling, and Identity

The concept album is a response to the brutal murder of Breedlove's father and stepmother at the hands of his stepbrother. The frame—the first song and the last—of the album is about the murders and their aftermath. But this is not a true crime record.
Music production
#retirement
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Research suggests the loneliness people feel after a long career ends isn't about missing the work - it's about discovering that most of their relationships were infrastructure, not friendship - Silicon Canals

Retirement often leads to unexpected loneliness due to the loss of social structures that support friendships.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I always assumed retirement would bring peace - instead it feels like being handed the life I never had time to live, and the weight of that freedom is scarier than any deadline ever was - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to an identity crisis and feelings of purposelessness after decades of structured work life.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 66 and I woke up last Thursday and realized I couldn't name a single thing I was looking forward to - not because nothing good was happening but because I'd trained myself to find meaning in being needed and nobody needs me anymore - Silicon Canals

Finding purpose in being needed can lead to a loss of personal desires and identity after retirement.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Research suggests the loneliness people feel after a long career ends isn't about missing the work - it's about discovering that most of their relationships were infrastructure, not friendship - Silicon Canals

Retirement often leads to unexpected loneliness due to the loss of social structures that support friendships.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I always assumed retirement would bring peace - instead it feels like being handed the life I never had time to live, and the weight of that freedom is scarier than any deadline ever was - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to an identity crisis and feelings of purposelessness after decades of structured work life.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 66 and I woke up last Thursday and realized I couldn't name a single thing I was looking forward to - not because nothing good was happening but because I'd trained myself to find meaning in being needed and nobody needs me anymore - Silicon Canals

Finding purpose in being needed can lead to a loss of personal desires and identity after retirement.
Books
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Do You See Yourself in a Story?

Comic books have evolved into a serious medium for exploring trauma and psychological depth, exemplified by works like Maus.
#self-worth
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I've already learned the hard way that self-worth takes time, healing isn't linear, and letting go is painful while you're learning to move forward - Silicon Canals

Carrying emotional weight from the past hinders self-worth; true self-worth is built internally, not through external validation.
Women
fromTiny Buddha
2 days ago

All the Important Things a Scale Can't Measure - Tiny Buddha

Self-worth should not be determined by weight or numbers on a scale.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I've already learned the hard way that self-worth takes time, healing isn't linear, and letting go is painful while you're learning to move forward - Silicon Canals

Carrying emotional weight from the past hinders self-worth; true self-worth is built internally, not through external validation.
Yoga
fromYoga Journal
3 days ago

Want to Drastically Improve Your Life? Start Telling the Truth.

A society built on lies cannot survive, as truth is essential for meaningful interactions and human dignity.
London politics
fromIndependent
4 days ago

Living with ambiguous loss: 'When someone is dead, you get to have a eulogy, you put a lid on a coffin. With missing, you get none of that'

Families of missing persons experience prolonged uncertainty and struggle to grieve.
Humor
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

There's a type of person who becomes the funniest one in every room and the loneliest one in every car ride home. The humor isn't hiding sadness. It's redirecting attention so skillfully that nobody ever thinks to ask the comedian a real question. - Silicon Canals

Humor often masks emotional struggles, as those who use it to deflect may be the least comfortable expressing their true feelings.
Science
fromenglish.elpais.com
5 days ago

From Cajal to Dali and Lorca: The drawings that revealed the substance of the human mind and inspired Surrealism

Santiago Ramon y Cajal discovered the structure of the nervous system and won the Nobel Prize in Medicine in 1906, influencing both science and art.
#solitude
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours ago

Psychology says people who genuinely prefer being alone aren't antisocial or damaged - they've simply discovered that their own inner world is more honest, more interesting, and less exhausting than most rooms full of people, and that realization doesn't make them lonely, it makes them selective - Silicon Canals

People who prefer solitude are motivated by internal rewards and find fulfillment in solitary activities rather than social interactions.
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago
Writing

I'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals

Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says people who genuinely enjoy being alone aren't missing the need for connection - they've located the one condition under which their full self is available, and that condition happens to require an empty room, and there is nothing wrong with that except that the world was not designed with them in mind and has been making them feel guilty about it ever since - Silicon Canals

Society often mislabels the need for solitude as a deficiency, while those who recharge alone are more emotionally stable and focused.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours ago

Psychology says people who genuinely prefer being alone aren't antisocial or damaged - they've simply discovered that their own inner world is more honest, more interesting, and less exhausting than most rooms full of people, and that realization doesn't make them lonely, it makes them selective - Silicon Canals

People who prefer solitude are motivated by internal rewards and find fulfillment in solitary activities rather than social interactions.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals

Solitude allows for self-discovery and personal reflection, free from societal expectations and external pressures.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says people who genuinely enjoy being alone aren't missing the need for connection - they've located the one condition under which their full self is available, and that condition happens to require an empty room, and there is nothing wrong with that except that the world was not designed with them in mind and has been making them feel guilty about it ever since - Silicon Canals

Society often mislabels the need for solitude as a deficiency, while those who recharge alone are more emotionally stable and focused.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours ago

Psychology suggests men who are deeply unhappy in life but hide it well aren't being strong - they're running a performance that costs them every real connection they have, and the people closest to them almost never see it coming - Silicon Canals

Men often mask their depression with busyness and distraction, making it difficult to recognize their true emotional state.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How Storytelling Informs Relationships

Complexity involves understanding interdependence and multiple perspectives, essential for resolving conflicts and nurturing relationships.
Books
fromThe New Yorker
2 days ago

Briefly Noted Book Reviews

The novels explore complex relationships and emotional landscapes during significant life events, including the COVID pandemic and enduring love across decades.
#success
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago
Careers

I'm 66 and I finally realized that I've spent my entire adult life chasing a version of success that my father defined in 1985 - and the reason I feel so empty now isn't because I failed, it's because I succeeded at building someone else's dream and called it mine - Silicon Canals

fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago
Careers

I'm 66 and I finally realized that I've spent my entire adult life chasing a version of success that my father defined in 1985 - and the reason I feel so empty now isn't because I failed, it's because I succeeded at building someone else's dream and called it mine - Silicon Canals

Arts
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Painting With Blood: Who Does It and Who Collects It

Blood is used as a medium in contemporary art, challenging traditional boundaries of artistic practice.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and the most important thing I have done for myself in the last decade is learn to sit in a room alone without immediately filling it with something - without the television, the phone, the task - just the room and the light and whatever arrives in the quiet, and what arrives, it turns out, is mostly myself, and mostly myself is more than enough company - Silicon Canals

Learning to sit in silence and embrace stillness can be transformative and essential for personal growth.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours ago

Psychology says people who randomly cringe at past memories have a level of self-awareness that most people never develop - because the cringe only exists when a person is emotionally intelligent enough to look back at who they were and recognize the distance between that version of themselves and the one standing here now, and that distance is called growth even when it feels like shame - Silicon Canals

Cringing at past actions signifies emotional growth and self-reflection, indicating a recognition of personal development over time.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals

Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals

Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
2 days ago

Doing Philosophy in a Borrowed Tongue

Experiencing a second language can create a profound sense of self-difference and challenges in communication for international students.
Cancer
fromIndependent
2 weeks ago

'Writing allows me to face what is happening now. And what is happening now is that I'm dying'

Gabriel Rosenstock faces mortality with peace, relying on poetry and philosophy for support during his battle with terminal cancer.
Books
fromwww.theguardian.com
5 days ago

The Guardian view on dystopias for our times: the American nightmare | Editorial

Dystopian fiction reflects current societal issues, as seen in adaptations of Atwood's works and films like One Battle After Another.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Is Your Pursuit of Happiness Making You Sad?

Valuing happiness as a goal can lead to emotional bankruptcy and a self-defeating cycle of constant internal surveillance.
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks ago

Daunting, inspiring, comforting, terrifying: the writers who can make silence as eloquent as words

A vision lay before him: Fleet Street blanketed with snow, silent, empty, pure white, and, at the end of it, the huge and majestic form of Saint Paul's Cathedral. It was a spellbinding moment: the great thoroughfare temporarily devoid of carts and carriages, the cathedral looming blurrily out of the still-falling snowflakes a real-life snow globe.
London
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours ago

There's a version of strength that only develops in people who had to figure out the rules of a place nobody explained to them. They don't talk about it because the people who had the rules handed to them wouldn't understand what was hard about it, and the people who also had to figure it out don't need the explanation. - Silicon Canals

Onsighting in climbing parallels navigating social systems, emphasizing perceptual capacity over resilience in understanding unwritten rules.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

What Is Your Quarter-Life Crisis Trying to Tell You?

The quarter-life crisis is driven by internal factors like purpose, meaning, and anxiety, alongside external pressures such as financial instability.
Arts
fromHyperallergic
1 week ago

The Unbearable Strangeness of Being

Cinga Samson's paintings evoke a haunting, incomprehensible world reflecting historical scars and spiritual alertness through unsettling imagery.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The people who become extremely selective about their time in their forties aren't becoming antisocial. They've simply collected enough data to know exactly which interactions leave them feeling more like themselves and which ones require a recovery period that nobody sees. - Silicon Canals

Social interactions have an energetic and emotional cost that varies based on the individuals involved.
fromThe Philosopher
3 days ago

We do not know what thinking is: Five Heideggerian statements

"We do not know what thinking is. But we do know when we are not thinking."
Philosophy
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
14 hours ago

There's a specific kind of person who can give the most precise, compassionate advice to everyone around them and then make the worst possible decisions for their own life. The clarity isn't selective. It's that they can only see patterns when they're not standing inside them. - Silicon Canals

People excel at identifying cognitive biases in others but struggle to recognize them in themselves, leading to a phenomenon called the bias blind spot.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Do You Like the Person You See in the Mirror?

Body-image concerns are prevalent among women and girls, influenced by unrealistic beauty ideals in media, but can be improved through healing mental schemas.
Books
fromwww.theguardian.com
6 days ago

The Beginning Comes After the End by Rebecca Solnit review a manual for coping with change

Hope is a sense of potential for change, acknowledging the unknowability of the future and the importance of direction in progress.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals

Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
fromPhilosophynow
2 weeks ago

What do I have to fear, have I ever diminished by dying?

What do I have to fear, have I ever diminished by dying? I died as lifeless matter and became growing vegetation, then I died as a plant and reached animality. I died as an animal and became human.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says the loneliest part of getting older isn't being alone - it's realizing that some friendships were only meant for a season, and not everyone grows with you - Silicon Canals

Friendships often fade as adults prioritize responsibilities and seek deeper connections, leading to feelings of loneliness even among familiar faces.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 37, I own a home, I show up, I make dinner - and some nights I sit in the kitchen after everyone's asleep and feel like a stranger who got very good at the role - Silicon Canals

Disconnection from life can occur despite achieving conventional success and stability.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the people who age most visibly aren't the ones with the hardest lives - they're the ones who never learned to put things down, who carried every disappointment and every grievance and every unfairness forward into the next decade, and the carrying shows, eventually, in ways that no amount of sleep or skincare has ever been shown to address - Silicon Canals

Chronic psychological stress and the inability to release emotional burdens accelerate aging and impact physical appearance.
#mental-health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago
Writing

I was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals

Pretending to be okay while feeling empty can trap individuals in a cycle of unhappiness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I'm 44 and I have started paying attention to how I feel the morning after I spend time with someone - not during, when the performance is running, but after, when the honest version arrives - and that single habit has told me more about my relationships than twenty years of thinking about them - Silicon Canals

The morning after social interactions reveals true emotional states, often contrasting with the perceived enjoyment during the event.
fromPhilosophynow
2 weeks ago

The Mirror & the Flame

Attar's 'Conference of the Birds' follows a flock of souls seeking the Simorgh, symbolizing the Divine, through seven valleys, ultimately revealing the Divine as a reflection of the self in relation with others.
Philosophy
Books
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Fiction Is Indispensable to Life's Journey

Fiction is essential for emotional connection, learning, and social cognition, allowing us to escape reality and engage deeply with narratives.
fromPhilosophynow
2 weeks ago

Life Sacrifice

The widespread practice of showing the Eid Al Adha slaughtering to children can desensitize them to violence, as many families take pride in this tradition.
Philosophy
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the people who look back at the end of their lives with the least regret aren't the ones who made the fewest mistakes - they're the ones who were most fully present for the life they were actually living, who didn't spend it waiting for a better version to begin, who loved the people in front of them rather than the idea of people, and who understood, early enough to act on it, that this was always the whole thing and there was never going to be another one - Silicon Canals

Presence, not perfection, leads to a life without regret at the end.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

The Unlived Life: Jung's Most Haunting Concept

Success can lead to an unsettling realization of the unlived life, where unfulfilled aspects of personality and desires remain hidden.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I realized recently that I've spent years becoming whoever the room needed me to be - and now I honestly can't tell the difference between what I actually enjoy and what I've just been pretending to for so long it stuck - Silicon Canals

Constantly adapting to others' expectations can lead to losing touch with one's authentic self and preferences.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Should You 'Rage Against the Dying of the Light'?

Fighting against death can be noble but may lead to futility and emotional strain, while acceptance offers liberation and wisdom.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

I'm 44 and I just realized that every time someone asks me how I'm doing I say 'I'm fine' automatically - not because I'm lying but because I genuinely don't know the answer to that question - Silicon Canals

Automatic responses to greetings can prevent genuine self-reflection and connection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

Nobody prepares you for the hardest lesson of your 50s - that some of the people you sacrificed for genuinely don't remember what you gave up, and it's not cruelty, it's just the way memory works when you were never the main character in their story - Silicon Canals

Sacrifices made for others often go unremembered, as people focus on their own narratives and experiences.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

There is a version of grief that only people in their forties understand. It's not for someone who died. It's for the life you were quietly building in your head for twenty years that you now realize was never going to happen, and the mourning has no name because the thing you lost never existed outside your own planning. - Silicon Canals

Midlife reckoning involves mourning an imagined life that never existed, rather than regret for choices made.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Talking About Death: The Depth of the Meaning of Life

Death is a certain aspect of life that is often uncomfortable to discuss, yet it shapes our relationships and understanding of existence.
fromPolygon
8 months ago

Time Flies when you're thinking about dying

So long as I manage to avoid lightbulbs or stay out of wine glasses, the buzzing will inevitably give way to silence. My wings will abruptly stop flapping and I'll careen towards the ground like an asteroid. I'll become a speck on a rug, a bit of debris absent-mindedly vacuumed up by someone who has no idea what adventures I've been on in the past minute.
Video games
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

Psychology says the smartest people in life tend to be the loneliest - not because intelligence isolates, but because a mind built for depth finds it genuinely difficult to feel at home in a world that mostly runs on the surface - Silicon Canals

Higher intelligence may lead to decreased life satisfaction with increased social interaction due to a preference for meaningful connections.
Film
fromVulture
2 months ago

Sometimes, It Helps to Look at Another Human's Face

Sam Green's film interweaves portraits of supercentenarians with his own life—birth, cancer diagnosis—creating an evolving, live documentary about aging, mortality, and records.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Understanding Existential Psychology in a Global Context

Existential psychology was first labeled in the West but does not belong to the West; cultural humility and global dialogue are essential for advancing existential therapy across diverse contexts.
Artificial intelligence
fromwww.bbc.com
2 months ago

AI researcher says 'world is in peril' and quits to study poetry

An AI safety researcher resigned from Anthropic, warning of global peril from AI, bioweapons, and interconnected crises, and plans to study poetry in the UK.
fromThe Conversation
1 month ago

Today's obsession with authenticity isn't new - being true to yourself has troubled philosophers for centuries

All of us live in an age where we're bombarded by social media and artificial intelligence - when striving to be your authentic self becomes an increasingly difficult task. Yet, even if it has somehow become a common goal, it is unclear how many of us can truly define the "authenticity" that we say we are pursuing.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Good Deaths of People Who Never Marry

People who had never married 'generally fared as well as, if not better than, married persons.' They also found that people who had no children were no different from parents in the quality of their life in their last month.
Mental health
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

How Did Meaning Emerge in a Meaningless Universe?

Meaning arises when physical correlations acquire evolutionary significance in living systems, grounding aboutness in biological value, neural representations, social symbols, and cultural narratives.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

Move over stoics! Why we should all embrace nihilism and discover what really matters in life | Gemma Parker

I was suspicious, even cynical, about what the world insisted was vital to the life of my unborn child. I was partly sceptical because so much of the advice I was getting was contradictory. But I was also suspicious because I'd spent most of my 20s reading Nietzsche. Nietzsche is not, perhaps, a natural choice for a young mother. But he helps to fuel certain questions about values, and purpose, that are central to questions of care.
Philosophy
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

There is a specific kind of loneliness that comes from being surrounded by people who only know the version of you that keeps everything together - Silicon Canals

The better you are at managing your emotions, the less emotional support people offer you. It's not cruelty. It's perceptual bias. People take your composure at face value because it's efficient for them to do so. A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that people consistently underestimate the emotional needs of those they perceive as high copers.
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