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Education

Why So Many Adults With ADHD Still Feel Wounded by School

Neurodivergence and Post-Diagnosis Grief Among Adults

Late diagnosis of ADHD, autism, or dyslexia often leads to 'post-diagnosis grief' among adults, reflecting on lost opportunities and struggles without support.

Education

5 hours ago

Why So Many Adults With ADHD Still Feel Wounded by School

Many adults with ADHD carry emotional wounds from school that affect their parenting and self-concept.

Neurodivergence and Post-Diagnosis Grief Among Adults

Late diagnosis of ADHD, autism, or dyslexia often leads to 'post-diagnosis grief' among adults, reflecting on lost opportunities and struggles without support.

Resilience and Reconstruction in Practice

A long-term approach is essential for supporting displaced individuals, emphasizing identity continuity and meaningful work for resilience.

6 hours ago

Psychology says people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s don't handle hardship better than everyone else because they are stronger - they handle it better because they were never offered the alternative, and a person who was never offered the alternative develops a relationship with difficulty that people who were offered it spend their whole lives trying to build in a gym - Silicon Canals

Struggling is a norm for my generation because we never knew life could be comfortable.

1 hour ago

The Quiet War on Your Happiness, and How to Win It

A quiet war on happiness is fought through distractions that pull attention away from the present moment.

Careers

Why So Many Young Adults Can't Launch-and How to Help

Action precedes confidence; overthinking hinders young adults from launching their careers.

Psychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals

Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.

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Why I Let My Kids See My Sadness Now (After Hiding It for Years) - Tiny Buddha

Embracing vulnerability allows deeper connections with loved ones, as hiding emotions can create barriers instead of fostering understanding and support.

Running

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Using Sports to Develop Good Character

Sports provide opportunities to practice virtues and improve moral character through repeated intentional actions.

Privacy technologies

Let's Rethink the "Doomer" Label

Labeling AI critics as 'doomers' hinders essential discussions about the technology's risks and impacts on human connection.

Medicine

1 hour ago

Polyvagal Theory Has Not Been "Debunked"

Polyvagal theory's clinical tools remain valuable despite critiques of its mechanisms, emphasizing the importance of effective frameworks for trauma therapies.

Philosophy

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Yom HaShoah and Transgenerational Trauma

Yom HaShoah calls for transforming grief into purpose and confronting inherited trauma with courageous optimism.

Alternative medicine

Tips to Manage Daily Stress

Gen Z and Millennials are experiencing peak stress levels earlier, with burnout common by their 30s, affecting work, sleep, and daily routines.

NewYork-Presbyterian agrees to bolster care for patients in mental health crisis

NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital will implement reforms to improve mental health care following a settlement over inadequate patient supervision.

A New Master's Degree Helps Improve Global Mental Health

Global mental health awareness is increasing, but significant gaps in services and cultural acceptance persist worldwide.

Healthcare

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NewYork-Presbyterian agrees to bolster care for patients in mental health crisis

NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital will implement reforms to improve mental health care following a settlement over inadequate patient supervision.

A New Master's Degree Helps Improve Global Mental Health

Global mental health awareness is increasing, but significant gaps in services and cultural acceptance persist worldwide.

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Grief, Storytelling, and Identity

The concept album is a response to the brutal murder of Breedlove's father and stepmother at the hands of his stepbrother. The frame—the first song and the last—of the album is about the murders and their aftermath. But this is not a true crime record.

Music production

Classmates subjected a young teen to "relentless" homophobic bullying. Then tragedy struck. - LGBTQ Nation

Leyton Taylor, a 13-year-old boy, died by suicide after enduring relentless bullying at school for being openly gay.

Tips to Cope With Bullies

Bullies target those perceived as different or weak, often lacking empathy and seeking power through control and dehumanization.

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Classmates subjected a young teen to "relentless" homophobic bullying. Then tragedy struck. - LGBTQ Nation

Leyton Taylor, a 13-year-old boy, died by suicide after enduring relentless bullying at school for being openly gay.

Tips to Cope With Bullies

Bullies target those perceived as different or weak, often lacking empathy and seeking power through control and dehumanization.

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Always in crisis mode? You might be catastrophizing here's how to stop

Catastrophizing is a cognitive distortion where individuals jump to the worst possible conclusions, often leading to chronic distress and mental health issues.

Why High-Functioning Adults Often Feel Anxious

High-functioning individuals often experience anxiety despite external success and competence, struggling to relax and feel regulated.

Mental health

Conquering Social Anxiety: The Courage to Reach Out

All Out Anxiety

Anxiety disorders affect 11% of children in the USA, impacting daily functioning and often leading to overestimation of danger.

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Why High-Functioning Adults Often Feel Anxious

High-functioning individuals often experience anxiety despite external success and competence, struggling to relax and feel regulated.

Conquering Social Anxiety: The Courage to Reach Out

Power and wealth do not shield individuals from anxiety or shame; honesty can lead to healing.

All Out Anxiety

Anxiety disorders affect 11% of children in the USA, impacting daily functioning and often leading to overestimation of danger.

Careers

3 Hard Lessons I Learned From Saying 'Yes' Before I Felt Ready

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I scaled mental health products for millions

Entrepreneurship is often misrepresented, masking the anxiety and stress that founders experience behind the facade of autonomy and success.

Careers

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6 hours ago

3 Hard Lessons I Learned From Saying 'Yes' Before I Felt Ready

Effort is often the only qualification needed for opportunities.

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I scaled mental health products for millions

Entrepreneurship is often misrepresented, masking the anxiety and stress that founders experience behind the facade of autonomy and success.

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3 Reasons to Stop Hiding Your Bad Habits From Your Kids

Parenting involves modeling honesty and resilience, as hiding flaws can distort children's moral development and trust.

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My Wife Is Struggling With a Very Basic Part of Parenting. I Can't Keep Swooping In to Save Her!

Managing emotional responses in parenting is crucial for effective problem-solving with young children.

Parenting

Why Setting Limits With Your Child Feels So Hard

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If Your Kids Lead Easy Lives, Do You Need To "Manufacture Hardship"?

Parents face a conflict between providing comfort and teaching resilience to their children.

Mental health

Parents and Their Child's Mental Health Recovery

Active listening, emotional validation, empathy, clear boundaries, and emotion-focused therapy strengthen parent-child bonds and help prevent youth mental health problems.

3 Reasons to Stop Hiding Your Bad Habits From Your Kids

Parenting involves modeling honesty and resilience, as hiding flaws can distort children's moral development and trust.

fromSlate Magazine

My Wife Is Struggling With a Very Basic Part of Parenting. I Can't Keep Swooping In to Save Her!

Managing emotional responses in parenting is crucial for effective problem-solving with young children.

Why Setting Limits With Your Child Feels So Hard

Setting limits based on fear rather than genuine values creates uncertainty for children, leading them to test boundaries.

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If Your Kids Lead Easy Lives, Do You Need To "Manufacture Hardship"?

Parents face a conflict between providing comfort and teaching resilience to their children.

Mental health

Parents and Their Child's Mental Health Recovery

The underrated value of rest - Silicon Canals

Prioritizing rest can significantly enhance creativity, patience, and overall well-being, challenging the misconception that rest is for the lazy.

Why Is Eradicating Adverse Childhood Experiences Critical?

Nearly 90 percent of suicide attempts among high school students are attributable to ACEs, as are 80 percent of adult suicides, translating to 109 suicides per day.

Public health

Medicine

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After a Traumatic Brain Injury, One Family Found Hope in a Pair of Lululemon Pants

A mother faced her son's traumatic brain injury after a car accident, refusing to give up hope despite grim medical recommendations.

Why We Stay in Relationships That Subtly Erode Us

Incrementally diminishing relationships persist due to human attachment to unpredictability and familiarity, despite emotional neglect and pain.

Education

Using Human Kindness as a Shield Against School Violence

Billions are wasted on ineffective security measures for schools instead of investing in mental health resources and social support systems.

Philosophy

When Leaders Go to War, Their Psychology Goes With Them

Narcissistic leaders often emerge due to fragile egos, leading to decisions that prioritize self-preservation over the well-being of others.

22 hours ago

When Trauma Awareness Stops at the Hospital Door

Chronic health conditions significantly impact psychological well-being, yet healthcare providers often neglect this aspect for both patients and themselves.

7 hours ago

Psychology says the people who age most visibly aren't the ones with the hardest lives - they're the ones who never learned to put things down, who carried every disappointment and every grievance and every unfairness forward into the next decade, and the carrying shows, eventually, in ways that no amount of sleep or skincare has ever been shown to address - Silicon Canals

Chronic psychological stress and the inability to release emotional burdens accelerate aging and impact physical appearance.

22 hours ago

Are You Betraying Your Future Self?

Future self feels like a stranger, leading to overcommitment and lack of fulfillment in life choices.

EMDR in a World HyperFocused on Healing

EMDR is an evidence-based trauma therapy that helps reorganize fragmented experiences, leading to significant reductions in trauma symptoms.

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The person who thrives during a crisis and falls apart during ordinary weeks isn't broken. Their entire operating system was built for emergencies, and peace registers as a system error because they never learned what competence feels like without urgency underneath it. - Silicon Canals

Crisis-thrivers are often dysregulated, struggling with normalcy after emergencies, revealing a deeper issue with their nervous system's response to stress.

Neuroscience reveals that the calmest person in any crisis isn't naturally fearless - their brain learned to delay panic because their childhood required them to be functional before they were allowed to be afraid - Silicon Canals

Calmness under pressure is a learned response, not merely a personality trait or temperament.

Becoming Comfortable With Discomfort

Comfort can hinder personal growth by creating avoidance of necessary discomfort and challenges.

The friend who always checks in on everyone but never tells anyone when they're struggling isn't hiding. They've simply never had the experience of someone noticing without being told, and after long enough, the idea of being spontaneously seen starts to feel like something that happens to other people. - Silicon Canals

Being the emotional caretaker in friendships can lead to neglecting one's own emotional needs and feelings.

Psychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals

Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.

Psychology explains people who grew up with very little affection become adults who are deeply uncomfortable being comforted - not because they don't need it but because need, expressed openly, was never safe, and the body that learned that keeps flinching from the very thing it was always asking for - Silicon Canals

Experiencing a lack of affection in childhood can lead to difficulties in accepting comfort and expressing needs in adulthood.

Psychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals

Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.

Psychology explains people who grew up with very little affection become adults who are deeply uncomfortable being comforted - not because they don't need it but because need, expressed openly, was never safe, and the body that learned that keeps flinching from the very thing it was always asking for - Silicon Canals

Experiencing a lack of affection in childhood can lead to difficulties in accepting comfort and expressing needs in adulthood.

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Positive Beliefs About Aging Can Influence Wellness

Recent discoveries reveal that positive beliefs about aging can improve cognitive and physical functions in older adults.

A Classmate Has Died-How Do I Talk About It With My Child?

Supporting a child through grief requires parents to process their own emotions first for effective communication and comfort.

Too Sensitive-Or Just Right?

Push-pull cycles in relationships can be intensified by trauma, requiring both partners to recognize and take responsibility for change.

Why You Are Harder on Yourself Than Anyone Else

Accountability involves recognizing mistakes without self-blame or harsh judgment.

Use Sexual Assault Awareness Month to Talk With Your Teen

Sexual assault is never the victim's fault, and alcohol consumption increases the risk of such incidents among teens.

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Being Courageous About Change: Mindful Guidance on the Proactive Pivot

Proactive pivoting involves making changes before they are necessary, requiring courage and strength to overcome resistance to change.

Parenting a Child With Pathological Demand Avoidance

Pathological demand avoidance (PDA) is a behavior pattern where children perceive demands as threats to their autonomy, leading to challenging behaviors.

7 hours ago

I'm 66 and I recently understood that the reason I find it so hard to ask for help is not independence - it is the very specific and very old belief that needing something from another person is the first step toward becoming a burden, and a burden, in the house I grew up in, was the one thing nobody was allowed to be - Silicon Canals

Independence can often mask fear, leading to a reluctance to ask for help and a belief that needing assistance is a weakness.

5 hours ago

Bridging the Gap From Here to Your Future Self

Imagining a future self strengthens connections to values and enhances life choices by tracing continuity from past to future.

People who grew up watching their parents stay together unhappily often become adults who are simultaneously terrified of commitment and terrified of leaving. They inherited the architecture of endurance without ever being shown what it was supposed to protect - Silicon Canals

Children of unhappy marriages may develop relational paralysis, feeling unable to commit or leave due to learned endurance without understanding its purpose.

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1 month ago

When Protection Becomes Punishment

Mandated reporting trainings emphasize legal compliance over understanding how CPS functions as a policing mechanism that disproportionately harms marginalized families.

The people who become the calmest adults are almost never the ones who had calm childhoods. They're the ones who grew up in houses where someone else's mood was the weather, and they learned to regulate the entire room before they ever learned to regulate themselves. - Silicon Canals

Children from chaotic homes can develop heightened emotional awareness and calmness, contrary to the belief that such environments only produce turbulence.

My Child Has Autism: How Do I Know the Program Is Working?

If the application of behavioral techniques does not produce large enough effects for practical value, then the application has failed. Practical value is whatever you define as meaningful for your child's life.

Mental health

Psychology says adults who have no close friends aren't necessarily antisocial or unlikable. Many of them learned in childhood that being vulnerable leads to pain, and they grew up assuming that keeping people at a distance is safer - Silicon Canals

Many people appear self-sufficient but struggle with deep-seated fears of vulnerability due to early attachment experiences.

The person in your life who never complains and handles everything isn't at peace - they learned so early that expressing a need cost them something that they stopped expressing needs entirely - Silicon Canals

Being perceived as 'low maintenance' can lead to neglecting personal needs and emotional struggles.

2 hours ago

Science Confirms How to Connect to Something Greater at Work

Spirituality in the workplace fosters connection and fulfillment, addressing disconnection and burnout among workers.

Psychology says the reason some people become gentler as they age while others become bitter has nothing to do with personality. It depends on whether they processed their grief along the way or stored it in their body and called it toughness - Silicon Canals

Grief, especially non-finite losses, significantly influences whether individuals become gentler or more bitter as they age.

59 minutes ago

What Is Your Quarter-Life Crisis Trying to Tell You?

The quarter-life crisis is driven by internal factors like purpose, meaning, and anxiety, alongside external pressures such as financial instability.

9 minutes ago

The Mentors You're Ignoring

Mentoring should include peer relationships for real-time feedback and growth, rather than relying solely on hierarchical models.

The Power of Negative Thinking for Athletic Performance

Imagery focused on negative possibilities can enhance performance and emotional regulation in challenging situations.

It's Time to Rethink the "Anxiety Drives PDA" Narrative

PDA is not solely anxiety-driven; it shares traits with ADHD and ODD, suggesting a more complex relationship with demand avoidance.

Healing From Our Trauma Helps Shape Future Generations

Healing breaks generational trauma patterns and transforms relational dynamics and biology.

When Should We Be Over Our Trauma?

Healing from trauma is a complex process influenced by support, safety, and resources, not merely time.

Why Shame Is Central in Trauma

Shame is a central emotion in trauma, particularly interpersonal trauma, affecting healing and self-worth.

Mental health

When Trauma Silences a Child

Mental health

How Trauma Hijacks Your Brain (and How EMDR Can Help)

3 weeks ago

Mental health

The Lie Trauma Tells: 'No One Understands You'

Healing From Our Trauma Helps Shape Future Generations

Healing breaks generational trauma patterns and transforms relational dynamics and biology.

When Should We Be Over Our Trauma?

Healing from trauma is a complex process influenced by support, safety, and resources, not merely time.

Why Shame Is Central in Trauma

Shame is a central emotion in trauma, particularly interpersonal trauma, affecting healing and self-worth.

When Trauma Silences a Child

Narrative therapy helped a young Ukrainian boy regain his ability to speak after trauma, starting with his interaction with a guitar.

How Trauma Hijacks Your Brain (and How EMDR Can Help)

Trauma rewires key brain regions, affecting emotional responses and treatment effectiveness for survivors.

3 weeks ago

The Lie Trauma Tells: 'No One Understands You'

Terminal uniqueness can hinder trauma survivors from seeking support, making connection with empathetic individuals essential for healing.

Developing True Resilience: Think Like a Scientist

Resilience is a set of skills developed over time through encountering difficulties, not a static trait.

Parenting

The Case of the Broken Banana: Building Kids' Resilience

Developing True Resilience: Think Like a Scientist

Resilience is a set of skills developed over time through encountering difficulties, not a static trait.

Parenting

The Case of the Broken Banana: Building Kids' Resilience

Is Believing You're Burned Out Burning You Out?

Burnout is often misdiagnosed and may be more preventable than perceived.

There's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals

Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.

Resentment Resolution: Free Yourself From Emotional Burdens

Resentment is a persistent feeling of unfair treatment that links past offenses, leading to a degenerative emotional state.

Brain Injury May Reverse Pre-Injury Trauma Work

Brain injury often reactivates unresolved traumas, necessitating neurostimulation therapies and cognitive empathy for healing.

The cruelest myth about self-discipline is that you have to feel ready - you don't, you never will, and the people who figured that out earlier simply have more years of evidence that the feeling eventually follows the action - Silicon Canals

Self-discipline begins with action, not feelings of readiness or motivation.

I'm 37 and I've already learned the hard way that self-worth takes time, healing isn't linear, and letting go is painful while you're learning to move forward - Silicon Canals

Carrying emotional weight from the past hinders self-worth; true self-worth is built internally, not through external validation.

The Two Thoughts That Quietly Ruin Adult Children's Lives

Struggling adult children often face analysis paralysis due to the fear of uncertainty, hindering their progress and confidence.

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Children who grew up in homes where one parent was the peacekeeper and the other was the storm almost always become adults who can read a room in seconds but have no idea what they actually feel when nobody else is in it - Silicon Canals

Emotional intelligence can stem from childhood experiences in volatile family dynamics, leading to heightened perception of others but self-blindness.

There's a generation of men who became their mother's therapist before they turned twelve, and they grew into adults who can read a room in seconds but have no idea how to sit in one without scanning for danger - Silicon Canals

Boys often learn emotional intelligence as a defense mechanism due to emotional parentification, impacting their adult relationships and emotional health.

Children who grew up in homes where one parent was the peacekeeper and the other was the storm almost always become adults who can read a room in seconds but have no idea what they actually feel when nobody else is in it - Silicon Canals

Emotional intelligence can stem from childhood experiences in volatile family dynamics, leading to heightened perception of others but self-blindness.

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There's a generation of men who became their mother's therapist before they turned twelve, and they grew into adults who can read a room in seconds but have no idea how to sit in one without scanning for danger - Silicon Canals

Boys often learn emotional intelligence as a defense mechanism due to emotional parentification, impacting their adult relationships and emotional health.

Is Your Teen Moody or Something More?

Distinguishing normal teen behavior from concerning mental health issues is crucial for caregivers during adolescence.

The 100-Year Smile

Holding onto anger accelerates cellular aging and negatively impacts health; choosing joy and letting go is essential for longevity.

Time-Outs Work, if We Can Learn to Do Them Right

Well-implemented time-outs lead to positive outcomes and healthier relationships in adults who experienced them as children.

Underexposed? Social Anxiety and School Closure

The pandemic negatively impacted teens' social skills, increasing anxiety and hindering exposure therapy effectiveness.

Why We Struggle With Change Even When We Want It

Change is inherently difficult, influenced by past experiences and the desire for familiarity, but self-awareness can facilitate lasting transformation.

Caring for an Autistic Child Amid War and Uncertainty

War deeply affects children and families, creating a need for targeted interventions to foster resilience.

When Therapy Explains Before It Understands

Therapists may misinterpret clients' experiences by relying on familiar frameworks, potentially overlooking genuine feelings and differences.

Is Searching for Memories of Childhood Trauma Helpful?

Understanding suffering through trauma is appealing but can distract from the need for compassion and treatment regardless of its cause.

Not everyone who stays silent during an argument is shutting you out. Some of them grew up in houses where raised voices preceded things that couldn't be taken back, and their silence isn't withdrawal. It's the sound of someone trying very hard not to become a person they promised themselves they'd never be. - Silicon Canals

Silence after an argument can signify deeper emotional struggles rather than mere avoidance or rejection.

Psychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals

Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.

Remembering an Angel With a Traumatic Brain Injury

Laura, despite severe brain damage, radiated joy and built meaningful connections with caregivers, enriching their lives through her infectious spirit.

1 month ago

Why Children Are Especially Vulnerable to Trauma

Trauma is a deep psychological wound from adverse experiences that prevents recovery and moving forward, distinct from painful but recoverable life events.

1 month ago

Supporting Youth at Risk With Empathic Intervision

Empathic intervision in youth support groups cultivates integrative empathy, building resilience, belonging, and agency through structured dialogue, deep listening, and practical empathic skills.