"My husband and I make the same amount of money, but in different fields. His job is 9 to 5 in an office. It has office politics, deadlines, and stressors, but no emergencies. He gets paid time off plus major federal holidays off. My job has longer hours, and it's normal to work with distraught people daily. We offer some morning and evening times. I recently switched employers to a large religious nonprofit."
"Normally, I have a set schedule of which days I'll be working early/late, and we have the meals and child tasks divided up about 40/60, him/me. I'd like it to be closer to 50/50, but this is OK. When I have days off that the family doesn't, I maintain scheduled stuff, like it being my turn to cook dinner or prepare the kids for school. I tend to do a mix of life stuff, like car repairs and house maintenance,"
"My husband believes that if I have time off and he doesn't, I should be taking on all the household responsibilities that day to make it fair. I feel like my vacation time is for recharging. It's not like I'm neglecting our family or home on my vacation days; I'm just not devoting my entire time to chores. (Even if he's scheduled to get the kids ready for school, I get up and"
Two partners earn equal pay but work different schedules, with one in a 9-to-5 office and the other in a longer-hours role at a religious nonprofit that grants its holidays off. The nonprofit employee uses those days to recharge, run errands, and handle some household tasks while keeping an agreed division of chores roughly 40/60. The spouse expects full household responsibility on days the family is home and the spouse is working, creating tension. The situation centers on differing expectations about how paid time off and religious holidays should be used for rest versus household labor.
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