The article delves into the experience of multitasking in communication, especially for individuals who struggle with attention. It explains that making eye contact during conversations requires sole focus, precluding the ability to genuinely listen. The author shares personal insights, emphasizing that while engaging in other activities—like playing Tetris—one can still effectively listen, highlighting the variability in social expectations and individual processing styles. This perspective sheds light on the challenges faced by many in social situations, advocating for understanding and adaptation in communication methods.
When you're talking to me, I can look at you or listen to you, but I can't do both.
If you want eye contact, it will take all of my energy and focus for me to perform the correct body language.
I can use all my energy to focus on listening to what you're saying and put my body on autopilot.
If I'm playing Tetris on my phone, I will absolutely listen to you. If I'm making eye contact, I have no idea WTF you are saying.
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