The article addresses two distinct letters from readers seeking advice on complex emotional situations. The first letter, from a married individual with a crush on a supermarket worker, highlights the irrationality of such feelings and suggests managing crushes through distance or discussion. The second letter deals with a divorced educator facing issues of anger and disrespect in a new partnership, raising concerns about physical roughness and emotional safety. The advice emphasizes the importance of reflection and communication in navigating personal relationships and emotions.
Sometimes a crush is just a way for the mind to explore an idea or blow off steam. The best way to get it to go away is to separate yourself from the subject.
Maybe you're just attracted to the supermarket guy, or maybe there's some unmet need in your life or marriage. Acting as the thought police for yourself isn't going to fix this.
It's fine to keep going to your regular market. When you do, remind yourself: There's the guy who I have a crush on. This doesn't mean anything.
The nagging problem is his anger. He has shoved me rather roughly and barked at me to move...
If I told him I have no interest in the relationship if he reacts like this, it may lead to further arguments, which I want to avoid.
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