"Unfortunately, many families are abusive, not always in the overt way such as violence and aggression, but also in some more insidious ways: frequent unacceptable criticisms, humiliation, contempt, shaming, etc. If this is your family, it is OK to decline another Christmas with them because it can make your mental health worse. You can find good friends-also called "chosen family," or people who actually care about you and love you just as you are-to spend Christmas with."
"Alternatively, it is also OK to spend Christmas on your own. In our society, there is an assumption that spending Christmas on our own is very sad. But it doesn't have to be. In fact, it could be a great quality time with yourself. You can eat your own favourite food, watch your favourite movies, and you can text friends, too, and stay connected if you wish."
The festive season can be joyous for some people but stressful for others due to enforced expectations. Spending Christmas away from an abusive family is acceptable and can protect mental health. Chosen family or supportive friends can provide meaningful company. Spending the day alone can offer quality self-time with favourite food, movies, and optional connection with friends. Sadness during the Christmas period is a normal response to loss from death, divorce, or family change and honors absent loved ones. Childhood dynamics can resurface during the holidays, and staying connected to one’s adult self helps manage those patterns.
Read at Psychology Today
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