When Good Intentions Backfire: The Reassurance Trap in ROCD
Briefly

Relationship obsessive-compulsive disorder (ROCD) causes persistent doubts and preoccupation about romantic relationships. Individuals experience intrusive thoughts enhancing anxiety and shame. Compulsions aimed at neutralizing doubt may offer temporary relief but perpetuate obsessive cycles. Reassurance seeking, a common compulsion, leads individuals to continuously seek validation from partners, friends, or therapists regarding their relationships, fostering dependence and uncertainty. Breaking free requires facing doubts without compulsions, engaging with the discomfort rather than resolving it for long-term empowerment.
Reassurance in ROCD may seem supportive but it ultimately reinforces obsessive doubt, keeping individuals trapped in a cycle where they cannot move forward without eliminating uncertainty.
Breaking away from ROCD requires confronting uncertainty directly. Compulsive behaviors aimed at alleviating doubt only serve to strengthen the cycle of obsession and compulsive behaviors.
Compassionate responses to reassurance-seeking involve tolerating a loved one's distress without attempting to immediately solve their doubts. This fosters awareness and acceptance instead of reinforcing compulsive behaviors.
The compulsive nature of reassurance seeking can manifest in various forms, such as questioning partners about their love or the viability of the relationship, highlighting an internal struggle.
Read at Psychology Today
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