A Reddit user is grappling with the financial demands of her mother-in-law, who expects her family to pay for an expensive $12,000 cruise for her 70th birthday. The Redditor is frustrated that this request could derail their goal of buying a house. She believes it's crucial for her husband to assert boundaries, but he feels obligated to comply due to his mother's lack of support and cultural expectations. This conflict is straining their marriage, leading to a critical decision point on how to navigate family expectations and financial reality.
It’s not entirely unreasonable for a mother to want to spend birthdays with her son, but that's not what's happening here.
The OP is mad that her mother-in-law is expecting them to pay for this and take time off, especially as doing this could set them back from their financial goal of buying a house.
The OP needs to set boundaries before the mom's demands become a big problem in their marriage.
The husband feels like he has no choice both because his mom doesn't have other family and because of cultural issues.
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