I've Seen What Kind of Father My Husband Would Be to Our Kid. I've Got to Escape.
Briefly

Anthony's lack of involvement with his son Jack, who has severe ADHD, raises concerns for his partner about their ability to co-parent. She feels overwhelmed and drained, leading her to question their compatibility in having children together. Despite Anthony's assurances that their future child would be 'easier,' his view on Jack's condition presents red flags. Acknowledging that loving one's children is essential, the partner contemplates separation and stresses the difficulties of counseling with a fundamentally selfish partner.
If you plan to have children, Anthony is not the right person to have them with. His disappearing act when his son is present is a red flag.
His inane 'reasoning' for his certainty that his next child will be without 'defects' and referring to Jack's ADHD as a 'defect' are deeply concerning.
Caring for and loving one's children is not optional, dependent on how they turn out: It is an absolute requirement.
Marriage counseling can help solve problems in a marriage, but it can't turn a selfish dolt into a good person, much less a good father.
Read at Slate Magazine
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