Shonda Rhimes Says The Idea That Working Moms Can Have It All Is "Bullsh*t"

""I think the relief was realizing that you can only do so much at once," Rhimes said. "I mean, I think that the struggle and the way we're told like, lean in, or you can have it all, or all these things - it's such bullsh*t.""

""My job is amazing, but there are times when I'm going to have to say, OK, I let that slide because my kids needed me. And that is OK," she continued."

""It's never going to happen. You're never going to feel amazing at both. It's always going to be a little bit, you know, shaky. So let it be shaky," she said. "It's not that you can't do it all. It's that you can't do it all at once.""

Working parents face unrealistic messages about 'having it all' and experience relief by accepting that only so much can be done at once. Allowing occasional lapses at work to meet children's needs reduces guilt and stress. Embracing imperfection and tolerating a bit of shakiness prevents chronic self-criticism. Prioritization and permission to let certain things slide make balancing career and parenting more manageable. Societal pressure to constantly excel in both arenas contributes to misery and should be replaced with realistic expectations and kinder self-forgiveness.

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