"Well, first the part you already know: Even the best of neighbors are unlikely to make changes to their property to improve the views of the people next door. If it's not bothering your neighbors, or seems like too big a hassle to remove, they're probably not thinking about what it looks like from your windows. This is OK. People have all kinds of reasons for making improvements to their homes or not making them."
"Try to temper your resentment by remembering that the lingering presence of the sandbox is not about you. However, since you have a good relationship with them, you can bring it up in casual conversation without making an ask. You can mention you've noticed it's looking worse for the wear and ask if they've ever considered getting rid of it. If they're open to it, you might even offer suggestions about what goes in its place."
A homeowner is frustrated by a deteriorating homemade sandbox visible from dining and living room windows. The sandbox was installed by previous owners and remains covered in caving plywood. The homeowner has not confronted the neighbors because of a good relationship and fear of crossing boundaries. Temper resentment and recognize the sandbox likely reflects others' priorities, not a personal slight. A casual, non-demanding conversation can raise the issue. Mention the condition, ask whether removal has been considered, and offer possible replacements if the neighbors are receptive. Maintain goodwill by framing the conversation as a friendly observation rather than a request.
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