Harriette Cole: I worry about taking my foul-mouthed husband to work events
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The husband curses excessively and the problem has worsened with age. Attempts to moderate his language around elders and children no longer work. The spouse hesitates to bring him to office functions because his swearing could be inappropriate and damaging. Stop bringing him to professional events if his behavior could harm reputation and offer a simple excuse when asked. Known acquaintances expect his foul language, so his presence may be acceptable in familiar company. The newly promoted supervisor faces awkwardness with a close colleague who has become distant and possibly resentful. The supervisor seeks ways to rebuild trust and maintain professional success.
I used to take him to office functions, like company dinners or business galas, but I hesitate now because he may begin cursing like a sailor at the most inappropriate moment. It's almost as if he has lost a filter now that he is older. How can I get him to be aware of his behavior? If he refuses to tone it down, I fear I won't be able to take him places anymore.
People who know your husband well already know that he has a foul mouth. While you don't like it, it's OK for him to be in their company as his behavior is expected. When it comes to work functions, think twice. If you believe that your husband's behavior will negatively impact your reputation, stop bringing him to those functions. When asked where he is, just say that he couldn't make it.
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