"If you'd asked me what to do before you got frustrated with your sister and expressed it, I would have encouraged you to be a bit gentler with her. The commentary about insanity and moving on was unnecessary. She's obviously very hurt (making irrational demands, yes; but in pain, too) and didn't need to be told anything that would make her feel worse about herself."
"At this point, I can't change the date, but if there is anything I can do to make this day easier for you, please let me know. So let her go ahead with her plan to skip the event, but because it sounds like a plan made in a heightened emotional state, make the seating chart flexible enough to give her some room to change her mind-and if she does RSVP yes, don't say "What happened""
A bride scheduled a February 14 wedding despite her sister Sydney's objection because Valentine's Day recalls Sydney's ex-husband leaving her with a friend five years earlier. Invitations have been sent and the venue booked, so changing the date is not feasible. The bride's harsh remark to "move on" escalated tensions and prompted a threatened boycott. The advised approach is to apologize for insensitive language, acknowledge Sydney's pain, offer accommodations to make the day easier, allow her to skip if needed, keep the seating chart flexible, and avoid bringing up the past if she attends.
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