"Some women can't orgasm at all, or only with a very specific and sustained effort. Others lose interest or are sore after one or two. Still more, as you describe your current partner, can have several or even dozens of orgasms. Some of those women find that each successive orgasm is more intense than the last-having several orgasms is part of reaching satisfaction, and may be part of how they reach "quality.""
"Odds are that your partner's orgasm pattern is fine. What's not fine is that you're worried, doubting, and asking me about it instead of asking her. You can bring it up by telling her that you've never encountered a woman who orgasms as she does, or asking whether there's any way that sex could be an even better experience for her."
"She reaches orgasms around eight to 10 times in the session, including through oral and fingering. She can go on and on... It worries me. Sometimes it makes me wonder whether I am actually satisfying her or not-quality over quantity, you know. The women I've been with before used to reach one to two orgasms, and then they were sore. I love to give her so many orgasms, but it's begun to worry me. Is this fine?"
Orgasm patterns vary widely: some people cannot orgasm, some need focused stimulation, some become sore after one or two, and some can have many orgasms, sometimes increasing in intensity. Clitoral stimulation, including oral and manual techniques, is generally more effective for people with vulvas than penile penetration alone, though penetration can add psychological or secondary clitoral stimulation. Frequent successive orgasms can be part of achieving satisfaction and quality. Worrying about whether frequency equals quality is unnecessary. Direct communication with the partner is recommended: express curiosity about her experience and ask how sex could be made even better for her.
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