This article compiles insights from the BuzzFeed Community on subtle signs of toxic friendships. Contributors shared personal experiences illustrating various red flags, such as feeling pity for a friend, one-sided conversations, lack of shared effort in maintaining the relationship, and friends keeping damaging secrets. These anecdotes highlight the challenges of recognizing toxic dynamics in friendships, emphasizing the importance of mutual respect and effort for healthy connections.
If you notice your role in the relationship revolves around pitying the other person in some way, get out. Over the years, I've built some very solid, healthy relationships and some deeply flawed ones as well. The difference? The problematic ones were centered on my desire to rewrite the other person's story...but that's not my job. It results in an imbalanced, unhappy friendship.
When the friendship is on their terms. They only want to talk when it's about them, convenient for them, or will benefit them in some way. They act annoyed or rush through the conversation if it's not meeting one of these goals.
I relocated to a different state in the US a while back and was finally making some new friends here. After a couple of friend dates, my new friend invited me to her house, and I was so excited! I thought we had moved beyond public spaces and could also hang out in our personal spaces. It was amazing, until I realized she never wanted to hang out in public spaces anymore...or at my house.
Your closest friends keeping secrets that affect your life majorly is a huge red flag. My best friend recently hid the fact that the guy I'd become exclusive with was sleeping with at least four other women.
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