The decision to open your relationship was part of a shared journey and, initially, it seemed to enhance your bond. However, the challenge now isn't about the sex or even the jealousy, it's about the emotional shift. Your wife's relationship with this other man is no longer about sexual exploration or casual encounters; it's about love and attachment.
It's understandable that you're feeling hurt and sidelined. The feelings of being displaced are real and valid. It's important to recognize that you're grieving a kind of loss, the loss of the version of your relationship where you were the central focus of her emotional world.
She assures me she still loves me and wants to remain married, comparing it to loving two children equally. But I feel sidelined, like the person who shares the mortgage while she has all the fun with him.
Your wife's happiness with him makes her want to be with him more. It may be critical to voice your feelings of discomfort and sadness in hopes of recalibrating your relationship.
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