In a candid discussion within the BuzzFeed Community, women shared their realizations about societal pressures they once accepted in their 20s, which they now recognize as toxic or unrealistic. Many discussed misconceptions surrounding motherhood, emphasizing that it can be a challenging path that leads to discontent if not desired. Others critiqued the expectation of unwavering support among women, suggesting it is inappropriate to support someone simply due to their gender. Additionally, many women highlighted the importance of setting personal boundaries for mental well-being, marking a significant growth upon approaching their 30s.
Turning 30 today. The big one: Motherhood will make you happier. The part they leave out is that it will only make you happier if you really want it, and it won't all be sunshine and rainbows. My friends who have undertaken motherhood are unhappy, often dealing with the trials of small children, and are often shamed for not loving every second of their time with their kids. Motherhood is a choice that has to be for you, and even if you choose it, it might not look conventional. But it isn't the only measure of your worth as a woman.
You do not need to support other women just because they are women. Do not buy into the 'sisterhood' crap. You are not obligated to be supportive of any woman who goes against your moral, ethical, and personal standards of conduct.
Yes. Stop pushing your scammy MLM on me.
I'll be 30 in a couple of months, and it's really the first time in my life that it's sunk in that I don't have to lessen myself for the sake of making other people happy. I've cut people out of my life recently because of how much it was taking out of me to keep them around, all for the sake of being a good friend. Learning to set and keep boundaries has been incredibly freeing, albeit scary at times.
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