The article discusses a situation where one spouse feels taken advantage of financially during shared dinners with family. The writer took unilateral action by instructing the server to provide separate checks, leading to conflict with both the in-laws and their partner. The advice given highlights that while the spouse's frustration is valid, handling it through secretive actions is inappropriate. Instead, open communication or accepting the situation gracefully is recommended for preserving relationships, along with apologizing to the partner for the fallout caused by the actions taken.
The adult way to address it would be to either have a grown-up conversation with them about it, or listen to your wife and let it go.
You were jubilant. You won! But, what exactly was your reward? The fallout is that you've potentially damaged your relationship with your in-laws.
The thing to do now is to apologize to your wife, and the next time you go out with your in-laws, pick up the check-no matter what they order.
You didn't. I get what you were trying to accomplish, but telling the server secretly that you wanted separate checks was the height of passive-aggressive behavior.
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