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Health
fromwww.bbc.com
12 hours ago

I've been a sex educator for six years. Why did I start doubting my contraception choices?

Milly Evans and Lauren share experiences of misinformation about hormonal contraception affecting their decisions and perceptions.
NYC LGBT
fromQueerty
6 years ago

Pastor says he used oral sex to "suck demons" out of men - Queerty

Rev. Dr. William Weaver claims he performed oral sex on parishioners to 'suck' demons out, facing a lawsuit for sexual assault.
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

The Psychology of Apology in High-Stakes Failure

Sam Bankman-Fried framed the FTX collapse as mismanagement while publicly apologizing and denying intent, reflecting self-justification and reputation management.
Mindfulness
fromBig Think
5 days ago

The "rawdogging" trend: A new term for an ancient practice

Rawdogging refers to engaging in introspection without distractions, particularly during flights, highlighting our struggle with downtime.
LGBT
fromQueerty
4 days ago

This sexpert is calling out toxic tops & a dark room double standard - Queerty

Topping and bottoming in gay relationships face different societal judgments, with bottom shaming rooted in historical stigma and exacerbated by the AIDS crisis.
#relationship-dynamics
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
9 hours ago

The Surprising Truth About Partners Who Never Argue

Conflict-free relationships may indicate underlying issues rather than compatibility, as open discussions about differences strengthen bonds.
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago
Relationships

The couples who last aren't the ones who never hurt each other. They're the ones who developed a shared language for repair that both people trust, and the language matters more than the injury because injury is inevitable and repair is chosen. - Silicon Canals

Relationships
fromPsychology Today
9 hours ago

The Surprising Truth About Partners Who Never Argue

Conflict-free relationships may indicate underlying issues rather than compatibility, as open discussions about differences strengthen bonds.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The couples who last aren't the ones who never hurt each other. They're the ones who developed a shared language for repair that both people trust, and the language matters more than the injury because injury is inevitable and repair is chosen. - Silicon Canals

The quality of repair after conflict is more crucial for relationship longevity than the frequency or severity of conflicts.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

The Man I'm Seeing Just Asked Me to Do Something Drastic to My Body. I'm Actually Considering It.

Undergoing surgery to remove foreskin for a partner's aesthetic preference after six months warrants careful evaluation of relationship dynamics and reciprocal compromise patterns.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours ago

Not everyone who keeps their personal life private is guarded. Some people tried sharing openly once, watched it become currency in someone else's conversation, and simply adjusted the distribution list permanently. - Silicon Canals

Privacy often emerges as a response to the violation of trust and openness, not as an inherent trait of individuals.
#relationships
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
8 hours ago

Why We Stay in Relationships That Subtly Erode Us

Incrementally diminishing relationships persist due to human attachment to unpredictability and familiarity, despite emotional neglect and pain.
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago
Psychology

Nobody warns you that when you stop caring what everyone thinks, you also discover which of your relationships were held together entirely by your willingness to be whoever the other person needed - Silicon Canals

Stopping people-pleasing leads to a necessary audit of relationships, revealing which ones are genuine and which are based on expectations.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
8 hours ago

Why We Stay in Relationships That Subtly Erode Us

Incrementally diminishing relationships persist due to human attachment to unpredictability and familiarity, despite emotional neglect and pain.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Nobody warns you that when you stop caring what everyone thinks, you also discover which of your relationships were held together entirely by your willingness to be whoever the other person needed - Silicon Canals

Stopping people-pleasing leads to a necessary audit of relationships, revealing which ones are genuine and which are based on expectations.
#sexual-communication
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Girlfriend's Sexual Behavior Would Really Turn Most Men On. But It's Killing Me With Embarrassment.

Personal preferences in sexual communication vary; not everyone enjoys or feels comfortable with dirty talk.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

There's One Way I Can Achieve Orgasm. The Trouble Is That I Need My Boyfriend to Leave the Room to Do It.

A woman comfortable with not orgasming during partnered sex should not feel pressured to change this when her partner repeatedly raises the topic despite her clear boundaries.
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago
Relationships

There's No Excuse for the Boorish Way My Boyfriend Likes to Have Sex. I'm Over It.

Sexual incompatibility requires mutual listening and compromise; pain during sex is unacceptable and demands communication about underlying needs rather than dismissal.
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago
Relationships

"I Learned How To Orgasm From Sitting On My Husband's Face"

A woman stops faking orgasms, trusts a patient partner with her sexual inexperience, and navigates a persistent mental block while valuing intimacy.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Girlfriend's Sexual Behavior Would Really Turn Most Men On. But It's Killing Me With Embarrassment.

Personal preferences in sexual communication vary; not everyone enjoys or feels comfortable with dirty talk.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

There's One Way I Can Achieve Orgasm. The Trouble Is That I Need My Boyfriend to Leave the Room to Do It.

A woman comfortable with not orgasming during partnered sex should not feel pressured to change this when her partner repeatedly raises the topic despite her clear boundaries.
fromHuffPost
3 weeks ago

This Sex Position Reliably Gets Women Off, And You May Not Have Heard Of It

"Roughly two-thirds of women don't have an orgasm with penetration alone. CAT offers direct pressure and rocking and grinding that gives women additional clitoral stimulation."
Women in technology
#open-relationships
Relationships
fromHuffPost
3 days ago

People Who Convinced Their Partners To Open Their Relationships Share How It REALLY Went For Them

Open relationships can be a solution for couples facing emotional challenges, allowing sexual freedom while maintaining a primary partnership.
Relationships
fromQueerty
2 days ago

He told me he was in an open relationship...after we hooked up. Am I wrong to be annoyed? - Queerty

Open relationships can create misunderstandings if all parties are not upfront about their status before engaging.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
3 days ago

People Who Convinced Their Partners To Open Their Relationships Share How It REALLY Went For Them

Open relationships can be a solution for couples facing emotional challenges, allowing sexual freedom while maintaining a primary partnership.
Relationships
fromQueerty
2 days ago

He told me he was in an open relationship...after we hooked up. Am I wrong to be annoyed? - Queerty

Open relationships can create misunderstandings if all parties are not upfront about their status before engaging.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says the most damaging people in your life are rarely the obviously cruel ones - they're the ones who were kind just often enough to keep you doubting your own perception - Silicon Canals

Intermittent reinforcement creates confusion and self-doubt, making it difficult for individuals to recognize toxic relationships.
Relationships
fromEsquire
4 days ago

After My Divorce, I Discovered Rope Play. It Changed My Sex Life.

Gianluca's late-in-life divorce led him to explore dating apps and unexpected experiences in intimacy and self-discovery.
#intimacy
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Before You Share Your Body, Ask: Do They Know You?

Physical intimacy often occurs before emotional intimacy, highlighting a paradox in relationships where vulnerability is avoided despite physical closeness.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Before You Share Your Body, Ask: Do They Know You?

Physical intimacy often occurs before emotional intimacy, highlighting a paradox in relationships where vulnerability is avoided despite physical closeness.
#bdsm
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
5 days ago

My Boyfriend Wants Me to Play a New Risque Role in Bed. But My History Will Make It Impossible.

Communicate boundaries clearly and compassionately regarding BDSM interests due to past trauma.
LGBT
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Who Is Kinky?

Up to 96% of people fantasize about kinky sex, while 20-83% have tried it, though fewer identify as kinky due to stigma and social perception.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
5 days ago

My Boyfriend Wants Me to Play a New Risque Role in Bed. But My History Will Make It Impossible.

Communicate boundaries clearly and compassionately regarding BDSM interests due to past trauma.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
2 days ago

I Spent Years Wishing My Husband Would Ask What I Needed. When He Did, I Froze.

The burden of managing family responsibilities can overwhelm one partner, leading to a need for shared support and communication.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
4 days ago

There's an Unfortunate Pattern to the Women I Sleep With. I'm Becoming "That Guy."

Insecurity about dating younger women can stem from societal judgment and personal feelings of inadequacy.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Why Deep People Struggle in Modern Relationships

Modern dating prioritizes speed over depth, creating pressure that conflicts with those who need time for genuine connections.
fromFast Company
1 month ago

Sex kink is way more common than you think. This dating app's free tool lets anybody explore those taboos

Nearly half of non-Feeld users (42%) said they practice kink, compared to 68% of the app's user base. In some areas, everyday folks were even kinkier than Feeld members: Among those who practice kink, 44% of external respondents said they engage in role play, just above the 41% of Feeld users that said the same.
LGBT
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
5 days ago

I've Asked My Boyfriend to Stop Sabotaging Our Sex Life in This Way. His "Excuse" Is Beyond Selfish.

Communication and compromise are essential for a healthy sexual relationship.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
1 week ago

Embracing 'Outercourse' Might Totally Transform Your Sex Life

Outercourse encompasses various sexual activities beyond penetration, enhancing sexual pleasure and intimacy.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

My Boyfriend Has a Naughty Desire. But His Double Standard Is So Unfair, I Think I Have to Reject It on Principle.

Balancing personal desires and partner boundaries is crucial in sexual relationships.
#polyamory
Relationships
fromIrish Independent
1 week ago

Just Between Us: Would you let your partner sleep with someone else? Polyamory explained with Leanne Yau

Polyamory involves multiple consensual relationships, emphasizing communication, consent, and emotional intelligence, distinct from cheating or simply open relationships.
Relationships
fromThe Atlantic
3 weeks ago

The Horseshoe Theory of Polyamory

Lindy West's memoir chronicles her journey from resisting her husband's nonmonogamy to embracing a polyamorous throuple relationship with her husband Aham and his girlfriend Roya, whom she also dates.
Relationships
fromIrish Independent
1 week ago

Just Between Us: Would you let your partner sleep with someone else? Polyamory explained with Leanne Yau

Polyamory involves multiple consensual relationships, emphasizing communication, consent, and emotional intelligence, distinct from cheating or simply open relationships.
Relationships
fromThe Atlantic
3 weeks ago

The Horseshoe Theory of Polyamory

Lindy West's memoir chronicles her journey from resisting her husband's nonmonogamy to embracing a polyamorous throuple relationship with her husband Aham and his girlfriend Roya, whom she also dates.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

My Wife Is Begging for a Repeat of My Special Performance in Bed. I Have Bad News.

Personal sexual boundaries should be respected, but societal pressures and misogyny can complicate attitudes towards oral sex.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Sexual Abuse in Intimate Relationships: Beyond Coercion

Intimate partner sexual abuse commonly uses coercion, entitlement, painful acts, humiliation, and strangulation, eroding victims' safety, self-worth, and well-being.
Relationships
fromQueerty
2 weeks ago

Sexpert explains the science behind "just okay" oral & why BJs don't always end in climax - Queerty

Oral sex often doesn't lead to climax for men due to different sensations compared to penetration.
#non-monogamy
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

I Made the Simplest Request of My Boyfriend Before We Sleep With Another Couple. His Response Blew Me Away.

Open communication and trust are essential for couples exploring non-monogamous experiences together.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago
Relationships

My Wife and I Found a Wild Way to Include a Friend in Our Sex Life. But It Might Be Time for a Reality Check.

Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

I Made the Simplest Request of My Boyfriend Before We Sleep With Another Couple. His Response Blew Me Away.

Open communication and trust are essential for couples exploring non-monogamous experiences together.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago
Relationships

My Wife and I Found a Wild Way to Include a Friend in Our Sex Life. But It Might Be Time for a Reality Check.

Relationships
fromHuffPost
2 weeks ago

You May Be In A 'Tolyamorous' Relationship Without Ever Having Discussed It

Tolyamory is a relationship dynamic where partners tolerate each other's outside romantic or sexual contacts without explicit agreement.
#sexuality
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

I Love Sex With Other Women. I Can't Explain My Most Persistent Fantasy.

Changing unwanted sexual fantasies is difficult, especially when they are tied to negative past experiences.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

I Love Sex With Other Women. I Can't Explain My Most Persistent Fantasy.

Changing unwanted sexual fantasies is difficult, especially when they are tied to negative past experiences.
fromScary Mommy
2 weeks ago

Soft Swapping Explained By Experts, Including How To Pitch It To Your Partner

Soft swapping sits in the gray area between monogamy and full partner exchange. Unlike traditional swinging, soft swappers set rules around what acts they can engage in with others.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

When My Girlfriend Went Down on Me, I Instantly Knew Something Was Very Wrong. Then I Realized What She'd Done.

Spicy food can cause discomfort during oral sex, leading to communication issues between partners.
LGBT
fromJezebel
2 months ago

There's a Tongue for Every Boot in the BDSM Fairy Tale Pillion

An unconventional gay romance frames kink and dominance as legitimate, romantic expressions, redefining 'happily ever after' through Colin and Ray's relationship.
#praise-kink
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
3 weeks ago

Why "Praise Kink" Might Be The Perfect Dirty Talk For You & Your Partner

Praise kink is a sexual desire for affirmation and positive feedback that activates the brain's reward center, making it an accessible entry point into kink exploration for partners seeking deeper connection.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
1 month ago

Why Do Women Like To Be Called 'Good Girl' In Bed? Sexperts Explain

Women may enjoy being called 'good girl' during sex because it combines mild submission with praise, often indicating a praise kink or power dynamic preference without requiring full BDSM engagement.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
3 weeks ago

Why "Praise Kink" Might Be The Perfect Dirty Talk For You & Your Partner

Praise kink is a sexual desire for affirmation and positive feedback that activates the brain's reward center, making it an accessible entry point into kink exploration for partners seeking deeper connection.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
1 month ago

Why Do Women Like To Be Called 'Good Girl' In Bed? Sexperts Explain

Women may enjoy being called 'good girl' during sex because it combines mild submission with praise, often indicating a praise kink or power dynamic preference without requiring full BDSM engagement.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

I Went Down on One of My Good Friends. He Has No Idea It Was Me.

A few years ago, I, a 21-year-old man, agreed to take part in a stupid frat hazing activity. Unbeknownst to "Felipe," a 21-year-old man, I performed oral sex on him during that activity while he was blindfolded. At the time, Felipe was just an acquaintance-we didn't become good friends until much later. Felipe's big brother at the frat, "Ron," is the only person besides me who knows that I performed oral on Felipe.
LGBT
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

I Have a Rather Large, Uh, "Endowment." It Led Me Down a Rabbit Hole That Almost Ruined My Life.

Seeking external validation can lead to reckless behavior and a spiral of self-destructive choices.
LGBT
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

I'm Having Great Sex With a Beautiful Woman. If Only She Knew What I Was Thinking About During It.

A person in a new stable relationship experiences intrusive sexual memories of a previous male partner, causing uncertainty about sexual orientation and presence during sex.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Is Making Love Different from Just Having Sex?

Making love differs from casual sex through patience, emotional intimacy, and temporal richness, involving slower, more tender interactions and deeper connection.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

I Want to Teach My Girlfriend a New Trick in Bed. The Problem Is Where I Learned It From.

A man seeks advice on whether to teach his girlfriend a specific oral technique he learned from another woman during their breakup, fearing jealousy despite her stated desire to make him orgasm.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

My New Girlfriend Just Told Me What She Wants Me to Do to Her in Bed. This Feels Wrong.

Communication about specific BDSM preferences is essential before assuming domination means denigration; partners should discuss what submission and dominance actually mean to them individually.
fromScary Mommy
1 month ago

What Is "Sex Debt" & Is It Killing The Mood In Your Marriage?

The moment sex becomes something you owe rather than something you want, the dynamic shifts entirely. It reframes intimacy as a transaction, and that's where things start to go wrong. Sex debt thinking often comes from a place of insecurity or poor communication. Usually, couples have never discussed what sex actually means to them in the context of their relationship.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Really Need My Boyfriend to Go Down on Me. What He Does Instead Is Maddening.

Sexual incompatibility rooted in unresolved fear or insecurity requires honest communication and exploration of alternative ways to express intimacy and devotion beyond specific acts.
Relationships
fromPortland Mercury
1 month ago

SAVAGE LOVE: Poly Under Duress

A younger woman in a relationship with a married man experiences dismissal of her concerns and is labeled difficult when expressing needs, suggesting potential relationship dysfunction despite initial satisfaction.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

My Husband and I Host Sex Parties. We're Feuding Over the Next Guest of Honor.

Inviting an ex to a sex party with a no-contact agreement creates awkwardness and contradicts typical party dynamics where all attendees are assumed available unless explicitly excluded.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

The Man I'm Seeing Swears He's Not Gay. I Have Some Questions.

A woman dating an effeminate man struggles with attraction differences and seeks advice on discussing his gender expression without offending him.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
1 month ago

Kinky People Have Always Prioritized This Practice. You Should Consider It Too.

Aftercare—post-sex comfort rituals—should become standard practice in all relationships, not just BDSM, to foster emotional connection and prevent post-sex emotional decline.
fromHuffPost
1 month ago

Sex Therapists Say They Would NEVER Do These Things In the Bedroom

The realm of intimate relationships is wide and diverse, providing endless opportunities to discover joy, pleasure and connection. But exploring new ground without consent from both parties may cause unease, betrayals of confidence and even injury. A good sexual relationship depends on this kind of conversation because it ensures that any exploration is grounded in permission and mutual curiosity, strengthening the connection and enhancing the experience for both parties.
Relationships
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago

Ladies, We've Got To Stop Being Afraid To Sit On Our Partner's Faces (They *Love* It)

Men often enjoy face-sitting because it intensifies intimacy, centers the woman's pleasure, and creates a reversed power dynamic many find erotic.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

The Guy I'm Sleeping With Crossed a Line During Sex. Could His Excuse Actually Be True?

Believe and respect partners' verbal boundaries about bodily limits; prioritize individual disclosures over stereotypes and stop sexual activity when a partner objects.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Suggested I Try Out a New Sexual Experience. Where It Needs to Happen, Though, Is a Whole New World to Me.

Follow posted rules, bring cash, be polite, tip well, avoid touching performers, confirm extra charges, and consider visiting during slow hours.
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago

I Want To Try Swinging. How Do I Tell My Spouse?

First of all, let me put your mind at ease. Having this thought does not make you a villain. It makes you a long-term partnered adult with a pulse. Most people don't wake up one morning and think, "Ah yes, swinging - this will clearly solve everything." Curiosity like this usually shows up more quietly. It's often less about wanting other people and more about wanting something back: playfulness, aliveness, the feeling that sex is still a place of discovery.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

I Got Into Bed With a Couple. When Our Clothes Came Off, I Had a Reaction I Couldn't Control.

I am a bisexual, 50-year-old woman who enjoys threesomes, including with the most common configuration of a bisexual woman partnered with a straight male. All my past encounters have been amazing-open communication, everyone hot for everyone, natural transitions between constellations of two and three people interacting. However, last night I ended up in bed with a couple, and once we got our clothes off, something happened.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Says There's Only One Way She'll Go Down on Me. I Can't Believe I'm Actually Considering It.

If a partner refuses a sexual act for personal reasons, pursue willing partners at open-sex events rather than undergoing surgery.
fromHuffPost
2 months ago

I'm an Escort In An Open Marriage. Here's What It's Taught Me About Relationships.

When you think of an escort, you might think of a single woman. In a lot of cases, this is true. The sex work industry is still surrounded by stigma, and many people can't handle being in a relationship with someone whose job is to entertain men. As a wife who works in escorting, however, I look forward to my husband pouring me a glass of Sancerre after work while I count my bills.
Relationships
fromIrish Independent
2 months ago

Just Between Us: From bullets to bondage - A beginner's guide to sex toys with Shawna Scott

With Valentine's Day around the corner, you might be thinking about buying a sexy gift for someone you love, or for yourself, and feeling completely overwhelmed by the options. This week on Just Between Us, Jennifer Zamparelli is joined by Shawna Scott of Sex Siopa to cut through the confusion and talk sex toys without shame or pressure. From bullets to bondage, dildos to dilators,
Relationships
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

My Wife Can Get Me to the Finish Line in Many Ways. Except the One I Really Want.

Some men cannot reach orgasm from oral stimulation; trying temporary abstinence, prostate stimulation, or adjusting stimulation dynamics may help but results are not guaranteed.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Just Told Me What She Thinks About While We Have Sex. It's So Much Worse Than I Thought.

At any point, any of your partners may have been thinking of someone (or even something) else to help themselves get over the edge. The idea of making someone orgasm with, to put it your way, just you is an illusion. People bring a lifetime of experience to the sex they have, including ways to help facilitate orgasm. Sex alone may not be enough to get your wife to come.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Girlfriend and I Can Only Have Sex in a Unique Way. She Thinks I'm Going to Leave Her in Search of Something More "Conventional."

Her preferred form of intimacy is to touch herself while letting me pump her mouth. It's been great and honestly hot, and she leans submissive in bed, so it's worked out well on that end, too. It's perfectly fulfilling for me and even unintentionally kinky in a way I like, and she says she enjoys that I'm still actively penetrating her even if not in a typical way.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Asked My Permission to Sleep With Her Best Friend. I Thought My Saying No Would Be the End of It. Oh Boy.

A married woman secretly pursued a sexual, emotionally intimate relationship with her female best friend, causing betrayal, jealousy, and conflicted arousal in her husband.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

When Sexual Frequency Becomes the Silent Issue

Unspoken sexual expectations within monogamy create conflict when desire changes asymmetrically, often after childbirth or menopause, requiring frank conversation to revive intimacy.
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