Careers
fromPsychology Today
5 hours agoWhy So Many Young Adults Can't Launch-and How to Help
Action precedes confidence; overthinking hinders young adults from launching their careers.
#teen-vulnerability
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#happiness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoFor decades, researchers found that happiness follows a U-shaped curve - high in youth, lowest in your 40s and 50s, then rising again. Most of us are in that middle dip right now. - Silicon Canals
Happiness typically dips in midlife, reaching a low around ages 47 to 49, before increasing again into old age.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours agoPsychology says people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s don't handle hardship better than everyone else because they are stronger - they handle it better because they were never offered the alternative, and a person who was never offered the alternative develops a relationship with difficulty that people who were offered it spend their whole lives trying to build in a gym - Silicon Canals
Struggling is a norm for my generation because we never knew life could be comfortable.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours agoPsychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals
Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.
#burnout
Productivity
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour agoThe workers most likely to burn out aren't always the ones doing the most - they're the ones who can't tell the difference between urgent and important - Silicon Canals
Workers overwhelmed by urgency rather than importance are more likely to experience burnout.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
9 hours agoI'm 66 and I recently understood that the reason I find it so hard to ask for help is not independence - it is the very specific and very old belief that needing something from another person is the first step toward becoming a burden, and a burden, in the house I grew up in, was the one thing nobody was allowed to be - Silicon Canals
Independence can often mask fear, leading to a reluctance to ask for help and a belief that needing assistance is a weakness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
9 hours agoPsychology says the people who age most visibly aren't the ones with the hardest lives - they're the ones who never learned to put things down, who carried every disappointment and every grievance and every unfairness forward into the next decade, and the carrying shows, eventually, in ways that no amount of sleep or skincare has ever been shown to address - Silicon Canals
Chronic psychological stress and the inability to release emotional burdens accelerate aging and impact physical appearance.
#vulnerability
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 37 and I finally figured out that vulnerability isn't saying something brave in a room full of strangers - it's telling the person who matters most that you're not okay and meaning it - Silicon Canals
True vulnerability is sharing fears with those who matter, not just public displays of emotional openness.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours agoThe people who become extremely selective about their time in their forties aren't becoming antisocial. They've simply collected enough data to know exactly which interactions leave them feeling more like themselves and which ones require a recovery period that nobody sees. - Silicon Canals
Social interactions have an energetic and emotional cost that varies based on the individuals involved.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 hours agoThe person who thrives during a crisis and falls apart during ordinary weeks isn't broken. Their entire operating system was built for emergencies, and peace registers as a system error because they never learned what competence feels like without urgency underneath it. - Silicon Canals
Crisis-thrivers are often dysregulated, struggling with normalcy after emergencies, revealing a deeper issue with their nervous system's response to stress.
fromLGBTQ Nation
6 days agoClassmates subjected a young teen to "relentless" homophobic bullying. Then tragedy struck. - LGBTQ Nation
Leyton's mother stated, 'None of the boys in that school accepted him. They told him they would never accept him for the way he spoke. He was a sassy speaker, more feminine - not the 'hard boy' type. This wasn't going on for just a little while.'
LGBT
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says adults who have no close friends aren't necessarily antisocial or unlikable. Many of them learned in childhood that being vulnerable leads to pain, and they grew up assuming that keeping people at a distance is safer - Silicon Canals
Many people appear self-sufficient but struggle with deep-seated fears of vulnerability due to early attachment experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThere's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals
Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe friend who always checks in on everyone but never tells anyone when they're struggling isn't hiding. They've simply never had the experience of someone noticing without being told, and after long enough, the idea of being spontaneously seen starts to feel like something that happens to other people. - Silicon Canals
Being the emotional caretaker in friendships can lead to neglecting one's own emotional needs and feelings.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoNeuroscience reveals that the calmest person in any crisis isn't naturally fearless - their brain learned to delay panic because their childhood required them to be functional before they were allowed to be afraid - Silicon Canals
Calmness under pressure is a learned response, not merely a personality trait or temperament.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoNot everyone who keeps their personal life private is guarded. Some people tried sharing openly once, watched it become currency in someone else's conversation, and simply adjusted the distribution list permanently. - Silicon Canals
Privacy often emerges as a response to the violation of trust and openness, not as an inherent trait of individuals.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
21 hours agoI realized at 66 that the reason I'm always tired has nothing to do with sleep. I've been running an internal monitoring system since childhood that tracks other people's moods, and it never shuts off, not even when I'm alone. - Silicon Canals
Emotional exhaustion can stem from lifelong habits of managing others' emotional states, leading to fatigue that sleep cannot alleviate.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPeople who stop trying to be liked are often accused of having an attitude - by the people who most benefited from them having none - Silicon Canals
Setting boundaries often leads to others perceiving you as difficult or having an attitude problem, despite unchanged competence.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a kind of exhaustion specific to people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s - not physical tiredness but the cumulative weight of having been reliable for so long, for so many people, with so little reciprocity, that they genuinely cannot remember what it felt like to be the one who was taken care of - Silicon Canals
Reliability can overshadow personal identity, leading to emotional exhaustion and a lack of self-care.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks agoWhy Do Some Girls Form Deadly Pacts?
Isabelle Valdez, 15, and Lois Lippert, 14, were accused of plotting to murder a classmate, with Valdez admitting to planning to use a knife found in her backpack. In an apology, she expressed feelings of being 'disgusting, cruel, and useless,' indicating deep-seated issues.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoTeens Are Asking to Be Seen: The Politics of Growing Up
Adolescence has always been a season of becoming. One of its most striking features is the dawning awareness that childhood is ending and adulthood is coming into view. This realization touches nearly every part of a young person's life: how they think, what they value, and, increasingly, how they understand the world beyond their own front door. Yet many teens encounter a familiar frustration as they begin to speak with more complexity-the sense of being dismissed, underestimated, or gently waved aside.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhy Teens Ignore Warnings and What Actually Works
Without effective tools and preparation, many parents understandably default to instinct and use common ineffective tactics, such as warning, advising, informing, or trying to control their teens. The adolescent brain has been compared to a car with a powerful gas pedal and weak brakes when in the presence of other teens or when expecting to be seen by them (Bulow, 2022; Steinberg, 2008). Further, they are drawn to peers, and then instinctively rev each other up into risky experimentation and sensation-seeking.
Parenting
fromInside Higher Ed | Higher Education News, Events and Jobs
1 month agoYouth Suicide Rates Decline, Risks Remain
The number of suicides per 100,000 young people ages 10 to 24 declined by nearly 12 percent, from 11 to 9.7, between 2021 and 2024. The decrease was driven largely by reductions among young men, whose suicide levels fell by nearly 15 percent, while suicides among young women declined by about 2 percent.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoThe Powerful Impact of Peer Victimization on Teen Depression
Being a target of negative experiences by one's peers has consistently been related to decreased self-worth, poor engagement in school, and worse grades among children and adolescents. One of the most consistent of these consequences is depressive symptoms. Put simply, kids' mental health is strongly impacted by being picked on by their classmates at school. Our recently published study examined data from over 100,000 Brazilian adolescents to disentangle how pernicious the effect of being victimized was on reports of symptoms of depression.
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