Self-invitations often carry a negative perception, where individuals fear they may come across as needy. However, recent research led by Julien Givi shows that this thinking can be misguided. The study involved participants role-playing as either plan-holders or potential self-inviters. Findings revealed that while potential self-inviters worry about annoying the plan-holders, the latter usually are open to having them join. This can harm relationships and create unnecessary emotional distance, suggesting that self-invitation can strengthen social bonds instead of weakening them.
In a new paper, Julien Givi and colleagues study self-invitations, revealing that plan-holders often welcome self-invitations and that potential self-inviters' fears of annoyance are overblown.
Research indicates that the assumptions surrounding self-invitation—where individuals think they are being needy or intruding—can actually be counterproductive and prevent connection between friends.
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