"Not learning to be unavailable. It is psychologically damaging to view yourself as constantly available to others. That's one step from viewing yourself as accountable to others for meeting their needs whenever they feel like it."
"When we were young, there were times of day that were not okay for phone calls and visits, and that's really important. Put your phone on silent when you sleep, or leave it in another room."
"And never apologize if someone takes you to task for not being available. Don't say, 'I'm sorry, I was asleep.' Just say 'I was asleep,' and if they were messaging in the middle of the night, add, 'What did you need badly enough that you expected a reply at that time of night?'"
Viewing oneself as constantly available to others can lead to psychological harm and a loss of personal boundaries. It is essential to establish times when communication is not acceptable, similar to past norms. Silence phones during sleep and avoid apologizing for unavailability. Instead of saying sorry for being asleep, simply state the fact and question the urgency of the message sent at inappropriate times.
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