""There's no such thing as a 'bad kid'-just angry, hurt, tired, scared, confused, impulsive ones expressing their feelings and needs the only way they know how. We owe it to every single one of them to always remember that." All children look up to their parents from the moment they enter this world. They have this beautiful, pure, unconditional love pouring out of them. Parents are on a pedestal. They are the ones who know what's best! They are the grownups showing us how to do life!"
"I, like many others, adored both my mum and dad. I could not see their flaws, their pains, or their trauma. I just loved them and wanted to spend time with them. If they shouted at me and told me I was wrong, I trusted that they were right, no question. When I had non-existent self-esteem, anxiety, and suicidal ideation because I believed I was not good enough, I blamed that 100% on myself."
Children often idolize parents and absorb parental reactions as personal truth. Parental emotional immaturity and unresolved trauma can make parents self-absorbed, distracted, and emotionally unavailable. Children internalize criticism and hurt, blaming themselves for perceived failures and developing low self-worth, anxiety, and even suicidal ideation. Those dynamics also shape adult relationship patterns, such as chasing unavailable partners and repeating learned behaviors. Recognizing that parental instability and unmet needs influenced these outcomes clarifies the roots of self-blame and relational difficulties and creates a basis for identifying signs of emotionally immature parenting and pursuing healing.
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