Maggie Nick, a social worker and trauma specialist, emphasizes the challenges of raising 'good kids' who aim to please others at the expense of their own feelings. She cautions that this often leads to emotional difficulties later in life, suggesting that parents should guide children towards self-acceptance rather than mere compliance. Nick argues that while it's important for kids to behave, it shouldn't come from fear of losing parental love. Many TikTok users resonated with her message, highlighting the prevalent issue of emotional suppression in children deemed 'good.'
You can have a 'good kid,' who's always respectful, who automatically complies, who never challenges you, who listens all the time and does it immediately without causing any trouble or you can have a kid who feels good enough, who believes they deserve love. You can't have both.
The 'pleasure to have in class' to 'neurotic adult' pipeline is a strong one... 'Good kids' are often more preoccupied with other people's feelings than their own.
We shouldn't be striving for a kid who is always on their best behavior because they're afraid to express their wants, needs, and opinions.
It's just to say that we shouldn't be striving for a kid who is always on their best behavior because they're afraid to express their wants, needs, and opinions.
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