"It's relatively easy to point out the signs of an emotionally disconnected couple: They stonewall (i.e., give each other the silent treatment), lose interest in the details of each other's lives, and feel unmoved by shows of affection from each other."
"Instead of holding in whatever's bothering them and letting it fester, couples who feel safe and secure in their relationships bring it up in a non-critical manner as soon as possible," said Danielle Kepler, owner and therapist at DK Therapy in Chicago."
"They might say something as simple as, 'It feels like we haven't had any time this week to connect. Can we take some time just the two of us this weekend?" she continued."
Relatively content couples notice and name emotional disconnection early instead of letting it fester. They bring up concerns in a calm, noncritical way and ask for specific, shared time to reconnect. They reframe difficulties as shared problems rather than assigning blame to one partner. They deliberately use 'we' language when negotiating practical matters and expectations, such as coordinating child care or dividing responsibilities. They make small, concrete adjustments and compromises that align both partners' needs. They prioritize repair and prevention by addressing issues promptly, communicating clearly, and creating mutually agreed plans to avoid repeat disconnection.
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