"For many years, I talked too much and overshared. I realized I was the problem, received treatment and overcame it. Occasionally, I run into former neighbors, co-workers, etc., to whom, in the past, I revealed too much. Sometimes they look away or look nervously at me. I just look away or smile, say hello and keep moving. I can't think of any other way to handle seeing others I made uncomfortable in the past."
"No, I do not agree with your husband. You are doing the holiday shopping in a way that works for you. If he would prefer it be done differently, let him know that you are willing to step back and let him assume the task. If he actually agrees to do it rather than carp, relax and take him up on it."
One person experienced chronic oversharing, sought treatment, and now avoids repeating past behavior by smiling, saying hello, and moving on when encountering those previously made uncomfortable. A brief greeting without conversation prevents relapse into oversharing. A couple disagrees on gift-shopping style: one buys thoughtful items year-round, the other prefers buying with the recipient in mind but does no actual shopping. Buying ahead is a valid approach if it produces fitting gifts. If a partner prefers a different method, that partner should assume the task; if he agrees to take over, accept his decision and let him handle it.
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