The manager curtly pointed out that everyone there had specifically asked to work that day, and I realized that most of the employees either needed the paycheck (hourly workers aren't typically paid for national holidays if they don't work) or wanted to escape their various home situations. I left the coffee shop thoroughly embarrassed about my entitled assumption that everyone would want the day off and should be given the day off without having a say in the matter.
For many years I was also on the receiving end of gifts that were lovingly wrapped and gifted. I understand that for many people the best part of Christmas is to send a beautifully wrapped and thoughtful gift. I've discovered that when people ask, What do you want? or I need a list for you/your family, it's coming from a place of love, not to terrorize you.
Gift Giving. Your staff works hard. Don't rely solely on your firm to provide holiday gifts. Get your legal assistant and paralegal a gift to show you appreciate them. Beyond your staff, give gifts to anyone else who has made your job easier this year. Holiday Cards. If your firm still provides its lawyers with holiday cards, secure some and send them out. If not, purchase a box or two of holiday cards and send them to colleagues and friends. And please, no e-cards.
Is Donald Trump a gay man? I can't think of anything that screams "closeted gay" louder than building a golden ballroom. Donald Trump has been married to three different women (two of whom were immigrants), he's been credibly accused of sexual harassment and assault by dozens of women, and he was found liable - by a jury of his peers - for sexually abusing E. Jean Carroll.
My late mother made a special Christmas cookie that required tedious decorating, considering each person's personal preference for toppings, and giving them as gifts to family and friends. They always had a place of honor on our family Christmas table. When she was no longer able, she gave me the cookie cutter, and my daughters and I took over the family tradition. It takes the three of us several days to make, bake, decorate, package and mail cookies to family members around the country.
If you're stumped on what to buy the man in your life, a contribution to his wardrobe will never go amiss. Stylish men will always appreciate pieces that compliment what they already have hanging, while those less sartorially minded will be thankful for some guidance. After all, every man needs clothes, and this is your opportunity to play dress up.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: When my mother passed away some years ago, my brother and his wife placed a stuffed black cat toy in her casket. My mother had owned several black cats. Months later, I was opening a Christmas gift from my brother. It turned out to be a stuffed black cat. He said, Do you know where that came from? Of course I knew! My mouth dropped open. Miss Manners, was this absolutely the worst Christmas gift ever, or am I missing something?
Gift-giving is an extension of a relationship and an expression of feeling. Thank you is not a phrase that has passed out of the lexicon. But we don't give to receive thanks. However, if you're feeling the relationship is one-sided, maybe it's time to change the mode of communication. That communication is key here. If you want to hear from the other grandchildren more, you can say so.
Something I unabashedly love about myself is that I am a great gift giver. I've given friends unique jewelry pieces that wind up in their daily rotation, surprised my parents with sweet birthday treats that fit within their diet, and once gifted my fiancé's brother-in-law (a guy I barely knew) with coffee beans so good he still orders them to this day. I guess you could say this talent is just my gift in life.
Our late uncle was a pilot, and he had a tradition where he would pick up little local candies and bring them back for all the cousins. There were 15 of us, so it was always just small treats. But it's a cherished memory. I started a career that lets me travel, so I have picked up the tradition of bringing small regional sweets whenever I see my nieces and nephews.