Harriette Cole: My boyfriend's bedtime ritual is a problem for me. Can I ask him to stop?
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Moving in together has revealed a partner's smoking habit that is bothersome for someone who has previously been complicit. It's suggested to set boundaries for smoking to maintain a pleasant home environment. Remote work offers flexibility but can lead to feelings of isolation and lack of motivation. Missing daily interactions and community support may cause drain on enthusiasm despite enjoying the work. Effective communication is limited when interactions are primarily through emails or scheduled calls.
Smoking is an addiction, so it's not a simple thing to get someone to quit. You can request no smoking inside the house so that your home does not smell like smoke.
You can request that he brush his teeth and wash his face after smoking so that the residue of smoke doesn't end up in your bed. This could be a deal-breaker for your relationship or at least for the two of you to live together.
While enjoying the freedom of remote work, feelings of isolation and a lack of motivation can arise. Daily interactions and spontaneous conversations are missed.
Communication confined to emails or scheduled video calls can drain inspiration despite still liking the work. The absence of a physical workspace affects the sense of community.
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