The article explores the author's struggle with confrontation, particularly in political discussions that provoke tension among friends and family. Initially engaging in debates fueled by wine, the author recognizes these interactions often lead to a circular and futile exchange. Transitioning to a more peaceful approach, they now deflect contentious topics to preserve relationships, valuing harmony over conflict. The piece highlights societal issues, including polarization in politics, as key factors straining personal connections, emphasizing the importance of choosing one's battles wisely to avoid detrimental fallout.
When triggers crop up, I hold myself back, changing the subject or laughing off an objectionable statement. I say things like: Yeah, it's a tricky one, isn't it? or: It's such a mess!
I’ve seen it happen. I like to think my peacemaker instincts would have prevented permanent damage in my own circle, but if differences are aired without hope of resolution, then what's the point?
Eventually, both sides would realize the futility of it all and we would move to safer conversational territory, nobody having gained ground or anything else.
It’s not surprising that ever more polarized politics these days are straining friendships and family ties. Brexit, Trump, the climate and cost of living crises, as well as widening gaps in generational thinking, have bred resentment and entrenchment.
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