I don't think scrutinizing and debating your emotions will be helpful. Instead, focus on actions. Suggest to your husband that you two map out what he thinks his kids need from you as a stepmom, and what more you may be able to offer them.
No one wants to hear that their beloved children are being placed on a lower tier in any way, especially by one of the primary adults in the kids' lives, and one of the main people available to offer them affection and care.
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