My next-door neighbor has two young children and often seems to be stressed out. She is married, and her husband helps out some, but most of the work falls to her. I see her looking exhausted all the time. The lights are on in her house before dawn. I can see her cooking from my kitchen window. There's always a pot on and dishes to wash. I see her doing homework with the kids and being attentive.
To experience desire for another person, you must feel sexually confident in yourself. Sexual confidence includes having a positive body image and perceiving yourself as a person who could attract others.