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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

The hardest part of healing isn't facing what happened to you. It's grieving the version of yourself that had to exist because of it. - Silicon Canals

Therapy's hardest work involves grieving the adaptive self—the survival identity you constructed—rather than confronting initial trauma, requiring surrender rather than courage.
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6 days ago

Psychology says the people who appear emotionless in a crisis were usually the children who learned that someone had to stay calm or everything would fall apart - Silicon Canals

Research on parentification - the process where children are forced into adult emotional roles - shows that many of the people we admire for their composure developed it as a survival mechanism. They weren't born calm. They were made calm, usually by environments where someone's emotional dysregulation demanded that a child become the steady one.
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