Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days agoYou're Asking for Too Much When You're Overthinking
Obsessing over root causes and striving for perfect self-improvement traps people in paralysis, misattribution, and prevents truly living.
most of them aren't interested in hustle culture (no billionaire or girl boss worship) or stereotypical self-care (no bubble baths or candles). They don't need a makeover or a glow-up. They have a drive to grow and to better understand themselves, to become more effective problem solvers, and to become more insightful. They care about high standards and high performance, but they have complex lives that don't revolve around just themselves or any one goal. They're seeking a less cringy era of personal growth.
Recently someone offered me a couple of books on the spiritual healing arts from a respected author—for free. It was the kind of offer I once would have responded positively to, taken them gratefully, and brought them home to sit on my "to be read" shelf. Maybe I would have tried to read them, maybe I would have even completed them. Instead, what I heard myself saying, with unusual frankness, was, "No thanks. I'm sick of self-improvement."
During an interview on Stripe's "Cheeky Pint" podcast, published Monday, Tobi Lütke said he enjoys trying out the hobbies of people he admires. He said he started racing cars after visiting the track with friends, for example, and "immediately fell in love" with it. The German-born entrepreneur has competed in the Rolex 24, a sports car endurance race held at Daytona in January, among other competitions.
Happy Birthday: Take a new approach to life, love and achieving the happiness you deserve. A change of scenery, revamping your routine and learning more about the people, places and things that interest you are good places to start. Change begins with you, and without taking the initiative and establishing boundaries, standards and plans, you'll continue to spin your wheels and go nowhere. Shake things up, and you'll make things happen.